My ex and his family live next to me and yesterday I ran into them again. I was so upset for the rest of the evening. I cried my self to sleep last night. I don't want him back, I think it's just the lies, humiliation and the betrayal that's still affecting me, "how could he do this to me?" . I can't move right now because I have just started taking some University courses. I thought I was over him. What should I do?
2006-09-12 02:55:35 · 13 answers · asked by Lady Mandeville 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may be over HIM, but not the way he left you feeling.
If moving is not an option right now and there's no way to avoid them, when you see them be civil but not conversational. Pass by, nod a greeting, but don't engage in conversations with them. The less you know about each other the better.
Congratulations on taking courses! Besides the fact that education is always a good thing, it can also be a good distraction from your current sitatuion. No need to feel humiliated - keep your nose in the books and your head up in public ;)
I wish you well.
2006-09-12 03:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Avid 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. First of all, it's okay to cry. You need to cry some more and release the pain. It's not healthy to hold it in. Go somewhere where you are isolated and nothing to interrupt you and just let it all out. Find one or two things that you learned from the past relationship with this guy and hang on to that and let go of the rest. Right now you are holding on too tight to the past. It is behind you and you can't change anything about it. Focus on yourself, your job, your family, your friends, your hobbies. Before you know it you will forgotten about this guy and you will have a new and improved person in your life and you'll be happier than you've ever been. When that happens, think of me, and please speak well of me. I believe in you. I believe you have the character to do all of the above. You have to believe you can do it before anything happens. Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-12 10:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He still has a piece of you, you need to get back. Have some guy over for dinner, even if you have to explain what you're doing. Make sure the X's see him and you together. Introduce him to them as "just a friend" if you run into them; and never explain yourself. Use a girlfriends brother or boyfriend or whatever. One time should be enough. That will change you're perspective and you know theirs will be changed also, which will help change your perspective.
2006-09-12 10:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by Love is the principle thing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he do that upset you so bad since you broke up with him, if he is a Liar, let it go.
It is good that you are going to be keeping busy with school, you will meet someone else, and this guy will be nothing more than a lesson learned.
Take Care and Good Luck with your courses.
2006-09-12 09:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone new,
I just broke up with a guy i date for a few months and we still go to the same church adn I know his family and i see him almost every sunday and wens so i am kinda in the same boat
2006-09-12 10:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it, the pain will recede with time. Concentrate on university, go out on dates, and be polite to everyone even them.
time heals all wounds.
2006-09-12 09:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way. u just have to give ur self time to heal over what happened between u 2. its natural but dont rush urself, even though it hurts when u see him cuz u think about everything that happened. just give urself time.
2006-09-12 09:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take the time to get over it, otherwise buy a carton of eggs and let your aggression out.
2006-09-12 10:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by binkisoto79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a hard thing to have to go through. if you are strong, act like nothing is bothing you. smile, be kind. and in pasting say hello and keep going.remember, you are to busy for any conversation. time will be your best friend.
2006-09-12 10:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried meditation, or exercise training.....either way they both require your time and focus which will take the time and focus away from your ex and ex's family
2006-09-12 10:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by l00kstwice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋