today one guy asked me out n i said no. because i neither knew him much nor i liked him... although i spoke with him in a very polite way now i feel bad i think i was mean to him. do u think he is hurt? should i feel bad? ...
2006-09-12 02:54:20 · 33 answers · asked by negar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how bad would you have felt if you'd said yes when you didn't really want to!! You did right by him by telling him no. So feel good about yourself!
2006-09-12 02:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by scribbler767 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think your question is stupid. You shouldn't feel bad since you gave him a polite answer and since you don't have any feeling or connection with him. He might feel bad and hurt but he should probably knew the answer before he even asks you. Going out with another guy you don't know always put you in some risks, and i think you know what those risks are.
2006-09-12 02:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by themysterious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not interested in him, then don't worry about it. If you are interested in him, go back and apologize and let him know that you would like to be just friends for now and maybe later on you can go to lunch or a movie. This way he knows you really are a nice person you just want to take slow and see what develops. If he tries to rush you into something you don't want to do then he is just trying to get something from you without much effort. You can control the whole relationship and only you can determine what is right or wrong for you to do. You will be fine!!!
2006-09-12 03:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with letting a person know that you are not interested. Going out with someone because of guilt can lead two ways. You could go out and feel miserable the whole entire time or you could go out and find out that you actually like this guy. But never feel bad about voicing your decisions. This is from your heart and you know what you like.
2006-09-12 02:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are a caring person. Review what you said to him and if you feel you were a bit rough just apology and go on with your life. He will think kindly of you and you'll feel better about it too.
If, upon review, you feel what you said was kind, then don't worry about it.
We all can be flip and unkind at times, due to many factors, but being big enough to apologize is a plus in any ones column.
2006-09-12 03:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We guys are very sensitive, so best to let us down easy. But, on the other hand, you should be stern enough to discourage further pursuit if you are truly not interested. I guess the best line I've heard was when a friend of mine was told by the girl he was interested in "thank you for asking, I'm very flattered, but I'm just not at a point in my life where I'm looking to date". That was very classy and he didn't feel hurt.
2006-09-12 02:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by babalu2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you say "No", "No, Thank you", "ell No!", or "G__ D__ ell No.!"?
Guys don't like to be turned down, but if he is over 17 years old, he is use to it by now. I do admit that women can do it in a very charming way. I'm am in my mid 50's. One of my more fondest memories was when I asked out a young lady ( we were both in our 20's) I had such a crush on her. I asked her out and she turned me down, but she did it with such class that I still remember her to this day. I really didn't know her very well but I could not help but wish her well.
2006-09-12 03:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if you say yes to every guy who asks you out...well, they need you to say no so that they can learn to cope with dissapointment. You should always try and be nice, but you don't owe them that. I think it is a complement when guys ask you out, but on the other side its creepy when you don't know them and it gets anoying. So don't feel bad unless you were really mean and then who cares. Don't feel bad.
2006-09-12 02:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad. why should you feel bad for not wanting to go out with someone? i wouldn't feel bad because you could have said yes then been miserable on a stupid date with a guy you dn't much care for then had to be nice to him. now he'll probably leave you alone.
2006-09-12 03:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not mean, you were honest. This is better then lying and hurting someones feelings that way. Do not feel bad at all.
2006-09-12 02:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋