And what I want? Maybe, that's why I've heard that we just start living at 40 yrs old? About a month ago, while on my first trip to Disney my husband of five years flew out of Disney and filed for divroce last week. While my ego is bruised and I don't know how I will support myself and my daughter and I have to move out of the house I have called home for the last five years; I am still happy and excited about my future.
If anyone, male or female has gone through this and would like to share you expreince, strength, and hope with me feel free to email me. I guess I didn't question anything .... LOL
How are you today ?
2006-09-12 02:44:40 · 22 answers · asked by byubelle98 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think I ever looked better than when I was 40. If I could choose an age to be forever that would be it. Not only are you more mature, you still look young.
Men talk about women being fickle or that women have big mouths. I've learned it's just the opposite. Men think with their you know what and I'll bet once you had the kid your sex life dwindled. Men only pretend to be patient but when it comes to sex they'll go with anyone who will sleep with them pretty much and therein lies the problem.
Don't act so blindsided, men don't go anywhere if there is lots of sex. They don't think with their brains like women do. At 40 you're just beginning to see the light, give it a few more years and you'll be a friggin' genius, haha.
You are now free and clear, you're single and probably pretty with some spirit to you and guess what else? Being single will result in a weight loss. Screw him, hold onto the house and get child support. Go to one of those job training places and get paid for on the job training (OJT). The best revenge is living well so become determined and just DO IT.
He is probably older than you are, he might very well be having a midlife crisis. There is nothing more pathetic than a man in a midlife crisis. It's really common to see a man in his 50's start having babies with a younger woman, they haven't a clue this is textbook so just chuckle to yourself as he "jumps the couch" and all that other stupid s**t.
Good luck to you, I am on your side forever.
Linda
2006-09-12 02:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Linda 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound very positive about your future. Could it be that you saw this whole thing coming? I think it's great that your taking steps to move on and not dwell in the now. I am 42 and have two children at home but only support one the other is old enough to support himself and does. As you probably already know there are programs out there to help you if you need it. Depending on where you live, if your in the USA you have a number of options. I'm not too proud to say I am currently on welfare, but I also work full time. Unfortunately I just can't make it on my income alone. But hey what I can say is I don't need any man in my life who wants to control my every move. I can finally breathe again, and I love being single.
2006-09-12 09:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your still happy and excited about your future because deep down you were unhappy as well ? Its good to be like this and the future can be exciting it hasnt ended just because a relationship has which you will also get over in time. Is it his daughter as well - if it is then he has to still support her and do you work ? also if you own the home then surely you have some rights there - and lastly again even if you dont own the home and its is its been your home for 5 years so I would get legal advice.
Look forward you dont need him just be happy - and you will be trust me - at first it can seem like you have a million things to think about and that its a struggle but gain your strengh and when you have this you will be able to live your life again to the full.
Good luck xx
2006-09-12 09:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by kinnoishere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI Belle Take a deep breath smell that freedom
Finances might get hard but that's nothing you cant over come
Family will be there for you to lean on so that's good use them
You have friends I guess so tell them to stop in and talk with you
it helps when you feel lonely or just a little blue.
then there is your little girl she is your reason to get it all together. you ll take a job any thing at first then after a while you can be fussy and look for a career .
But Its nothing that a strong lady with conviction cant do
2006-09-12 09:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by slick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is still legally obliged to provide for you and your daughter, he cannot just abandon you financially like that, get yourself a decent lawyer. Life does indeed throw us some bum deals occasionally, but there is lots to live for, and the best thing you can do is be positive and pick up the pieces, this is the start of a whole new life experience for you, so take every opportunity that comes your way.
2006-09-12 09:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for being so strong and realistic about it and not groveling at the idiots feet to come back.I was divorced twice over with two children and no child support..,but also no welfare.I moved back home with my parents who help raise my children as I worked my butt off to support my kids and we all won in the long run.I have two wonderful grown responsible children,my parents are very close to my children,it was better than anyday care and I thank god for their strength..,as I would not have had the ability with providing for my family where I failed in the choices of marriages I made.Good luck and hold you head high.
2006-09-12 09:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by halfbright 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that's why we tell alll the kids online 'you are not really in love'.
Anyone over 40 knows you are not really and adult until you are close to 40. Fun and exiciting time...enjoy it!
2006-09-12 09:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope the future holds much happiness for you
2006-09-12 09:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better late than never, It seems like you were not happy with this guy. Go on explore
2006-09-12 09:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by she 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's the worst thing about the future, you never know where it will take you.
But look forward to it, enjoy the good , learn from the bad and don't forget to have fun.
Mwah wish you all the best !!!
2006-09-12 09:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by Unique 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋