im a suffering alcoholic and the way my daughter talks to me the names she calls me the terrible things she says is devastating all i do is love her so much and the way she behaves i dont know its unbearable i brought them up if that is possible as an alcoholic to know right from wrong and treat every one with respect i love her deeply but she hates me i know its a vicious circle but even when i didnt drink it seemed she hated me even more
2006-09-12 02:33:53 · 15 answers · asked by yes if hooked it destroys all 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
There are groups for children of alcoholics
Maybe she should join one
2006-09-12 02:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar Magnolia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put the "plug in the jug" and go to Alcoholics Anonymous. It's your behavior that she hates, not you. You need to learn how to live and AA can teach you to do that without having to drink. How can your daughter love and respect you when you don't love or respect yourself? Find a meeting:
http://www.aa.org/en_find_meeting.cfm
2006-09-12 02:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heya. i am 14 years old and i'm a girl so i can kinda relate to your daughter. i don't know how old she is but if she's around my age or even older then it's perfectly normal. some days i really can't stand my dad and i say i hate him to myself but i never mean it. i love him inside. however, i don't even dare to say anything to my dad, like calling him names. give her space if you're not already. i hate it when my dad crowds me and it makes me really annoyed but luckily he doesn't much and he's learned to "back off". stop drinking for the sake of your daughters future. it will affect her, seriously. you can bring your daughter up well but she can always choose to do different. its not your fault. i know you love her and its hard but the next time she calls you a name, raise you voice and show her you will not tolerate it. if she continues, take something she likes away. i would hate that myself but it would teach me a lesson and scare the hell out of me so i wouldn't do it again. all the best.
2006-09-12 02:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by rachel h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother is an Alcoholic and I say things to her that I don't mean and I love her heaps, she just hates to see you treat yourself like that and she has no other way of telling you that but by putting you down.
But I hate my father because he just has never been a part of my life so yes it is possable to hate your parents, but in your case it doesn't sound like your daughter hates you.
2006-09-12 03:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy848 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible for a child to hate his/her parents. And it's possible for a parent to hate his/her child. It's a sad fact of life, but it happens. More so, in situations of abuse such as the alcoholic life you've described. You need to get sober, for yourself. And you both need therapy to help you mend fences and strive for a more realistic relationship. Good luck.
2006-09-12 02:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, my best friend hates her father because he was an alcoholic while she was growing up. Her reasoning is he was irritable, unpredictable, mean at times, and selfish. It has caused her to become codependent, bipolar, and suffer from borderline personality disorder.
2006-09-12 02:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i ought to think of it, and my kiddies seem having various undesirable patches, yet one way I now take care of this, is to no longer strengthen my voice, I talk to them in a decrease tone, and that they provide up right this moment away, and ask what i've got stated, and this distracts them, and could additionally cause them to know that they are shouting, while its no longer mandatory, provide it a attempt, for a week, and spot what occurs, its working for my lot and me.
2016-11-07 04:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i dont think your child can hate you, anymore than you can hate your child. i believe that selfishness makes us do things that bring out the ugliness in us- and its only when we stop focusing on ourselves and start thinking about others that the vicious circle with stop
2006-09-12 02:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Luci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is angry and will be until you prove to her you can change. Ask her for help. Admit you have been wrong. Ask her to go to a AA meeting with you. It will take time but you can do it. You can pray that God will give you the strength to get through it. Good Luck and God Bless! I will pray for you. :)
2006-09-12 02:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lucille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have hurt her deeply. Don't you think her anger is somewhat justified? Get sober and stay that way and over time she will come around.
2006-09-12 02:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋