2006-09-12 02:29:18 · 30 answers · asked by mom of three 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that's stupid, leave him
2006-09-12 02:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Takafushi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look a tat is a personal thing It carries a life time of color and pride but it can also be seen as a brand as in a sign of ownership like the slaves and Jew's had put on them . If you need an excuse tell him that in this day and age 1 in 230 people getting tattooed get a blood disease or even worse a fatal condition from the needle of tattooists in the U S A. aids hepatitis's the list is long .
2006-09-12 09:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your body... DON'T GET IT DONE!
If anything.. spend your money on marriage counseling. The only time someone can be controlling over another person is if it's allowed.
You have a voice. Use it! This is not the 1800's. You can't be a wimp. Without being rude or nasty...but "Be FIRM" and decisive when you speak, look him straight in the eye (without BLINKING or Flinching) and say.... "YOU get a tattoo if you want... I choose NOT to have that done to MY BODY. I'm not speaking on this subject again. End of discussion on my part. Period."
If he pursues the conversation don't answer. Listen and when he's done talking... walk away. Always make eye contact and don't flinch. Be consistent and stick to your word (mean what you say and say what you mean) and Don't discuss that subject EVER again. The Bible talks about not placing marks on your skin... Also, the Bible speak about not marking your skin... so.. if you quote the Bible this will shut down his conversation on that topic.... TRUST! Read it in the Bible Leviticus 19: 28 (third book in the Bible).
Consider counseling prior to entertaining the idea of divorce.... even if you have to go it alone. You need to understand why you've chosen to be with a man who's controlling and why you've allowed yourself to be controlled. That behavior needs to be checked and healed before you even consider weather or not you need to move on.
Be strong!
2006-09-12 10:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you tell your husband to stick it where it belongs.
Life is too short to spend it with an ***hole.
It might be hard to leave, but in the long run maybe it will be better. Experience has taught me that men who like to control only get worse over time.
The more you comply, the more they control, and so on, till you have no say at all.
Do you want to look back at your life from your deathbed and think, damn... I spent my whole life being controlled by someone I didn't even love.
2006-09-12 09:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do DO NOT get a tattoo if you are not sure about it, it is permanent and very painful and expensive to remove. Explain that having a tattoo is just not for you, he cannot force you to. Any man that controls this much is dangerous, have a back up plan ready so that if he does become aggressive you have somewhere safe to go.
2006-09-12 09:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you'll write his name on you with permanent marker (which wears off) but you don't want a tatoo or you don't want anymore tatoos. Or humor him and tell him that you will think about it.
I think he senses you are tired of his controlling ways and instead of him doing therapy, he thinks the tatoo will solve the problem because you will be further stuck with him.
Another option would be to suggest marriage counseling and if all the issues can be resolved satisfactorily, you will get the tatoo.
2006-09-12 09:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They last forever and can hurt getting one (have 4 and wish I didn't). If you are feeling you may not want to continue life with your husband then best stay away from tattoos-better to seek out a lawyer.
2006-09-12 09:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - some interesting family dynamics going on there!
What does he want the tat to say?
Maybe "slave to my husband"???
Sister, it's time to draw a line in the sand and say enough is enough.
Even if he is the one who brings home the bacon, he needs to understand that you are not his property.
He does NOT own you.
Get it?
Now, you know him better than we do, so a lot of what you say is HOW you say it.
If you FEAR for your safety, then its time to get an attorney and file for divorce.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-12 09:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greatly controlling?Doesnt sound like you should get a tattoo.
2006-09-12 09:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows that and thats why he wants you to get the tattoo. It is reassurance to him that you want to be with him and love him enough to do it.My husband and I both have matching tattoos on our upper arm. We got them when we were 47 years old. They have both of our initials on them.
2006-09-12 09:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go along with what he wants... if you want to be in an abusive relationship for the rest of your life. You should take control of your life and leave his *** on the curb.
2006-09-12 09:35:13 · answer #11 · answered by SpawnOfSpock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋