ok i tried to break up with my boyfriend last week and i did but he seemed to not let .me saying that i didnt know how much he loves me and all that, but i dont dont feel the same way for him ,but he made me feel really bad so i took him back and now the feeling of me wanting to break up again is here and i dont know how to do it . Will someone help me ?
2006-09-12 02:23:37 · 16 answers · asked by Hollagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't follow through with the break up because of guilt, not because you love him or need him. Do him a favor and allow him to find somebody that will love him by breaking it off clean. Just tell him that it's over.
2006-09-12 02:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know when you care about somebody it is hard to hurt there feelings, but YOU want to break up and you should. Why are you putting his feelings before your own. If you are not happy in the relationship then leave. The best thing you can do is to tell him the truth. It might hurt him a lot in the beginning, but I will tell you that it will be better off for him in the end.
If you continue to stay with him while you are unhappy, you will wind up hurting him more by either cheating on him or by acting mean to him. So no matter how hard it is, he deserves to know exactly how you feel, and you deserve to be happy.
If he keeps begging just dont answer his calls or see him and give him time to get over it. He will eventually.
2006-09-12 09:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its never easy when your ready to end it and the other person isn't,in relationships it always seems as though one wants in and the other wants out you never really mesh some ones always feeling it more than the other,this sometimes occurs throughout the entire relationship,and that's normal.but when its really over you know,and whether the other person is ready to accept or not.it will never work if your both not in it so like i said before when its over really over you know!breaking up is the hard part so id say if its not fixable you have to do what you have to do i would never talk someone into staying in a relationship unless there were kids involved GOOD LUCK!!! PS.a friend
2006-09-12 09:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by my space 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is trying to control you through guilt. He is trying to force you to consider his wants and feelings at the expense of your own. Just break it off once and for all, and don't go back to him. It isn't about what he wants, it's about what you want. I you are that unhappy, then the relationship isn't healthy for you to be in anymore. Break up with him, and if necessary, just don't talk to him anymore. Avoid all contact. Change your phone number(s) or screen your calls and stop answering your phone unless you know who is calling. Breakups are not supposed to be "nice", so stop trying to make things easier for him. He is going to be angry/hurt/resentful/whatever, but that's his problem and not yours. You are only responsible for your feelings and not his. So what if he calls you selfish? This isn't about him, it's about doing what's best for you.
2006-09-12 09:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, sweetie......you are an Enabler! Stop playing the victim role here. He is not responsible for your feeling or your bahviors. Simply tell him that you no longer want to be in a relationship with him and to not call you or contact you in any way. This is not that hard. Honesty is the best policy and you must establish your personal boundaries in no uncertain terms..........period.
2006-09-12 09:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have 2 do it and stick 2 it, i know u don't want 2 c him hurt cause it makes u feel bad but your only leading him on by taking him back and it's only gonna make things worse on da long run, sit him down and talk 2 him, try 2 b as nice as possible about it, stick 2 your guns, goodluck.
2006-09-12 09:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first you have to stick to your guns. You tell him that you don't feel the way you thought you would after getting back together. Tell him it is time to move on. Make sure you distance yourself form him and don't answer the phone.
2006-09-12 09:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lori K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him DIFFERENTLY to the way you would usually do it.If you are nice and sweet and stuff like that,be nasty and hurt him.This way he will know that u are serious.If you do it the same way as before,he would think that you are not serious.Im telling you.this is the only way to get rid of him!
2006-09-12 09:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out. tell him firmly that it's over. and don't even think about taking him back no matter how hard he begs. You can be more cruel though by breaking up over the phone. at least you won't see his face.
2006-09-12 09:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by thatsoundssowrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, dump him, leave and move on.... it's not hard. He's just using the softy method. My ex did the samething. He still does it till this day! We been apart for 2 years!
2006-09-12 09:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋