my girl cheated on me, i forgave her. nd i heard that she is seeing someone else but she denied it point blank. She told me to take it or leave it. i kept quite about it. rite now she is at my place and has been there for a week. wat should i do. Does she love me or not
2006-09-12 02:15:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust is a very very difficult thing to regain once it has been lost. I think that there is a tad bit of that going on here....you don't trust her or her word 100% yet and so you question her....TOTALLY NORMAL! The thing that strikes me as a red flag is the whole "take it or leave it" thing! She should be working hard to regain the gift of trust that she so carelessly threw away.....HOWEVER.....you are going to have to try and trust her again if you want to make this relationship work. I wish you a lot of luck. Peace
2006-09-12 02:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she's already cheated on you once, she's proven to you that she cannot be trusted. She has violated the relationship.
And given her past, she has the nerve to tell you to "take it or leave it" when you question her about a new allegation? I think you know what's really going on. Are you afraid to be alone?
If your girlfriend is cheating on you then you don't have a good relationship. If you have to wonder where she is and who she's with when she leaves the house, then you don't have a good relationship. You're probably spending a lot of time worrying about what's going on, which isn't good.
If your relationship isn't good, what's the point of being in it? I say dump her and you'll be happier (at least once you get used to being single). Take some time off from relationships and enjoy your life as a single man. Then date again once you have enough self esteem and self confidence to know that you will not tolerate a cheater.
2006-09-12 09:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!
sorry
she can stop cheating but only if she wants to. if you keep your mouth shut about the way it bothers you then you are clearly being taken advantage of. shes at your house? what is she free loading?
take it or leave it? she is OBVIOUSLY doesnt care to lose you so lose her, your going to get hurt in the end, besides, she will respect you for not taking her ****.
2006-09-12 09:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by chula1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your problem isn't her adulteress ways its the fact that cheating or not you cant trust her any longer and by the sounds of it she doest give a stuff if you do or not so . when the trust is gone so is the love my friend pack he bags kiss her face and tell her she was fun but now you need to see a nice girl that can love just one man and that man my friend is you .
2006-09-12 09:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to confront her about it if you don't have evidence. However, there are signs. One of the biggest ones is the amount of affection she shows you. If she's not as warm and affectionate toward you as she used to be, that's a red flag.
2006-09-12 09:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Chris S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on why she cheated in the 1st place. I don't know if cheaters ever stop. Perhaps she has no gutz to break up with you.
2006-09-12 09:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people can stop yes but they have to want to and given you forgave her before and she is not attempting to put your mind at rest it would seem to me anyway that she doesn't care about how you feel,,she should totally understand your worries and show she doesn't want anyone else,selfish.
2006-09-12 09:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me, you should not believe her. I mean sometimes it is just not worth it. Meaning the pain and headache of not trusting her,
2006-09-12 09:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mila 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if u actually can learn 2 trust her after that, it dosent mean she dosent love u necessarily
2006-09-12 09:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by NIKKI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By now she knows that she can get away with it so why not!
2006-09-12 09:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋