I have been with my girlfriend for just under 2 months now. She lives about 3 hours from me (by car). Everything is going great, we are getting on so well, her family are brilliant and I get on with them very well. She has just started back at college (final year). We are both aware that we can only see each other on weekends and are aware that she has alot of pressure on her shoulders.
She doesn't want to take things too seriously she tells me, what does that mean? I mean, we only see each other on weekends. She would prefer if we take it slow, that she is not ready to settle down. I totally understand how she feels and have told her that I'll always be here.
Every day and night I think of her, miss her, wanting to be in her arms...
Do you think it will work out, if we take things slow? Thanks in advance for any responses.
2006-09-12 02:15:05 · 20 answers · asked by chapers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may work more than if you pressure her and go with the flow of things - its her final year and the most important one so just be there for her and look forward to your weekends together, the only other thing is that 3 hours by car is a long way - if you want this to be long term are you prepared to move all that way in the future or is she? either way there will be sacrifices but if you both want this relationship then you will overcome them.
When your girlfriend says she doesnt want to take things too seriously it is probably because shes young and like I said last year of college and its important she just doesnt want to rush things just take it slow and good luck I hope it works out for you xx
2006-09-12 02:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by kinnoishere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also in a long distance relationship due to college. I think in these situations the distance will either make or brake a relationship.
Its difficult to tell if the other person feels the same way. It sounds like you're into her in a big way. If she doesn't feel the same then you might feel rejected, and envious of the people she does see all the time.
You've only been together a short while, so taking things slow sounds sensible, don't rush into any life changing decisions. It all depends if she is worth the wait or not.
I hope everything works out for you, I can really relate to the situation you're in.
2006-09-12 09:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kate1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of work but it can be done .. always communicate with each other, be honest and respectful.. create a blog (yahoo 360, myspace) for one another .. write love letters, poems, etc. Treasure the little moments you have even if its just IMing .. always find away to be available to each others need, and always trust the other person.
Needless to say the only way a relationship will work however is if the two parties involved are willing to put the work involved into it.. and it has to be taken seriously.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-12 09:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, if you start trying to make it more serious, you'll only be disappointed and you'll pine for her even more.
If you really like her, then wait. I only see my boyfriend on the weekends and one day during the week if I'm lucky and I'd love to see him every day. But it's just not possible.
Be patient. It's only a year until she finishes college right? If you enjoy the time you do spend together, the year will pass quickly.
Good luck.
2006-09-12 09:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Yasmin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she insists on taking things slow, i would take her advice. Since there is a lot of pressure on her right now, perhaps she doesn't want to feel overwhelmed by the relationship. Seeing one another on weekends is still a good thing.
2006-09-12 09:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The not wanting to get serious thing doesn't mean anything. She only wants to have college as her priority right now. She prolly doesn't want to have to live up to any expectations of serious emotion needs, because i.e, that takes time and effort when she's trying to concentrate on other things. Just take it slow, you'll be on track soon enough.
2006-09-12 09:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by *Elle Marie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means take it slow, not just because she wants to but for you also. Relationships seem to work out much better if couples take their time to get to know one another. This is not a race you know even though your body might be saying something else.
2006-09-12 09:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUTH
There is no way to preduct the future. She is under a lot of pressure at college and cant spend every weekend playing with you. She may find others she vecomes close with. Best you can do it play it out and not act too needy.
Enjoy her and wait and see.
2006-09-12 09:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you want to know the answer to this question, pal.............no one on Yahoo or in the world has a crystal ball. Be patient and take it slow. Many things can happen but if I were you, I would not sit around obscessing about this girl......be productive in your own life!
2006-09-12 09:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a long distance relationship with a giraffe i met in africa and it worked out fine i still see her every now and then when i go up to see my new girlfriend, ellie the elephant! Hope it works out love!
2006-09-12 09:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by Busty Blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋