Every night, I need to sit next to him in his room until he falls asleep. This sometimes takes up to an hour. If I get up to leave the room, guess what...So does he...Have had suggestions of putting up a baby gate in his room, but this seems a little too Alcatraz-ish...
2006-09-12 02:12:04 · 5 answers · asked by abc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ya it works the best thing don't go and sit with him let him do it by his self . he's only doing it coz he know you going to be there ... I know it's hard to not sit with him but you need to stop ..I have a son that thought he could do that to me. I walk out and let him cry and go on he did this for a hr then he was out we did this for a week till he seen i was not coming in so now he is 4 and sleeps on his own
2006-09-12 02:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by nightsky1331 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has you well trained. baby gaits work well. He is learning how to manillupatae you and he is smarter than you think he is. He will milk this for all it is worth.
I had this trouble with my son too. Find some sort of distraction.
Like maybe hand him a book to look at and hope he falls asleep looking at it. He is old enough to be told that he needs to stay in bed. If he gets up have some sort of reward for good behavior and a easy punishment for not going to bed on his own. Make a chart and each night that he doesn't get up he gets a sticker.
When he gets up take a sticker away and put him time out for one minute. He isn't old enough for any longer.
Maybe he needs a night light. Maybe some music on a timer or one of those noise makers..like the ocean. Or get a digital clock in there and have him watch the numbers change...anything to divert him from his routien of not going to bed.
Maybe get a routien going. Tell him this is how it will be. He gets ready for bed. finds a book. mom or dad rock him while reading one book (he will work on two books then three .....and so on)
Maybe sing a song while rocking him. Maybe talk about his day.
Tell him that the new rule is that he needs to stay in bed. If he does, when it is morning, he gets a sticker. A week full of stickers and he gets a reward. Stick to the routien or he will manilupate you until you want to scream. Write down the routien, he can't read, but he can see you go to it and read it , reminding him or what is expected of him. A month full of stickers might get him a trip to Churck E Cheese Pizza or some other reward.
Remember there is a difference between bribs and rewards.
Life is all about cause and effect and learing about it at young age is good.
2006-09-12 02:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, speaking based on how i was raised and what i believe has helped me to raise mine...... a smart straight A's-B's, independent, courteous, kid. Man he is such a blessing. I feel happy to be his mom..
I never really had a problem with him going to sleep i would let him play in his room till he fell asleep. However, if i had something to do in the morning ( i didn't work until he was about 5 yrs old) and i needed him to go to sleep i would ask him to go get in the bed and take a small toy (makes sure the toy doesn't make any noise sounds are ok but noise will keep him up) with him. Dependings on how he responds i would make him stay in the bed with a tap on the booty if i had to. I would make a mean face believe me the mean face works then i would say in a loud voice "don't get out that bed".
I called my son in here to ask him he is 10......He said he might be scared of the dark. so he says leave the light on or get a night light. My son says he didn't like the night light. He liked the light lol. my son told me that sometimes maybe he can fall asleep watching tv. ( thats what my son did). Note: i only allowed my son to watch tv Max is 2-3 hrs per day as a toddler and i had to approved it. He said Ex. Barney, Blues clues,Dora, comfy couch, sesame street. stuff like that .
Ps. Plz Nip it in the bud. Before he gets out of control and u really can't handle him going to bed amongst other stuff.
Spare the rod and spoil the child.
Hope we helped ya some. Good Luck.
2006-09-12 02:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had this problem with my daughter and learned over time and research...a lot of this problem is atmosphere and diet.
No caffeine PERIOD! Try removing all red dye and as many preservatives from his diet as possible. This includes ANY sugar substitutes except nature ones...and since he is a little young for honey...go for Stevia you can find it at most natural/organic/health food stores. If he has dark ring tones under his eyes - this is a sure sign of allergies...they can start testing for allergies - could be a milk/dairy allergy. People don't realize that food allergies cause most ADD type behavior. If he is prone to ear infections...then all the meds the doctor's have been giving him have killed not only the bad bacteria but the good bacteria too! Yeast is kicking his system all over the place...go to a good holistic doctor and get some good active bacteria or treat with good, quality yogurt.
Atmosphere...quiet down the tv and stereo, bath time mellows the mood, read to him from a book or tell him a story...GET A ROUTINE GOING and stick to it...their little systems need a routine and it is a source of relaxation and security for them...soft lights, etc...during the afternoon...get him active - move...release his energy then do your best to keep him awake til bedtime...he WILL crash after the activity and bath...
2006-09-12 02:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Angelfood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have Patience
2006-09-12 02:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by SAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋