My girlfriend and I are very in love adn very attached together ..Since, we have 6 months our of relationships arguing about religion ...She seems to be the one who wants to win and don't want to compromise, but would like me instead to compromise everything to make it possible ...but, I am kinda in state of indecision since s few months...I love her but things seems complicated and requires a lot of sacrifice from me for the sake of relationship ..I don't know if i will be able to bear that all life long ..
I don't know if I will fit her beliefs..I would to stay open, but I am hesitant ..I have a belief too, but it seems not to be important for her ... well, don't know what to do ...I love her and wouldn't like to se her, but on the other, I see it could be a headache in the future ..what should I do if I can't decide whether to stay or to move on ..?any advice ..?
2006-09-12 02:06:36 · 5 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you get any further into the relationship, you need to do a list of pros and cons on your relationship. It sounds like your girlfriend is a control freak and has to have everything her way. I suspect that she won't stop at trying to control just your beliefs on religion, but every aspect of your way of thinking and doing things. And the saying, "you can't teach an old dog a new trick" really applies here. She is set in her ways and you cannot change her because she is dead set on you being the one to do all the changing. I would dump her quick and move on or you'll just be a "yes man."
2006-09-12 02:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise is supposed to be two-sided and when one is expressing him/herself, the other should be listening. No one person should be controlling/overpowering in a relationship. She seems to down you all the time and is demanding so much from you. I'm assuming you are reaching your wit's end that is why you are feeling the way you do right now. Take the weekend away from her to sort thoughts/feelings out first. And then when you get back, try to conversate with her and see if you both can resolve these issues. They are serious must I add. Good luck buddy
2006-09-12 09:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind ! You have to be more practical in your approach. Yes, it would be painful to quit but time is the best heal. If you think that the differences cannot be resolved and it would be more of a compromise, I would suggest that you both stay as good friends.
It wont be a headache in future if you will think from your heart, I guess it would be a NIGHTMARE.
2006-09-12 09:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Farhan L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be, you say you can already see that there may be trouble in the future; this is just telling you now that you need to pay attention to the "red flags". We are given insight for a reason, and not to pay attention would be like walking into lunch hr. traffic with a blind fold on. Each person has a right to their own beliefs, and those beliefs should be respected. Listen to your first instinct; you may need to get free of this situation. Good luck.
2006-09-12 09:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by sam j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if she loves you religion should not matter. She is doing so because she thinks she can win, she is looking you hesitant over this matter. In this case you have to be firm and decisive. You tell her that you can not compromise on this issue. And believe me if she loves you she will never leave you.
2006-09-12 09:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Aryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋