someone that i care alot about is in need of some financial assistance. this person has turned their back on me before but always comes back around and i let them come back because thats just the type of person i am....not a pushover...just a nice person. should i help them out?
2006-09-12 01:49:24 · 21 answers · asked by MsNic 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since your the type to forgive and forget, then the answer is yes!
2006-09-12 01:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should help but to a certain extent. If you've went all out before and she's turnt your back on you (even if she came around later), it would be wise if you were to NOT go all out this time. Meaning dont bend over backwards for her. Dont solve her problem then have her pay you back, just HELP her with her problem, DONT take care of it completely. Maybe even draw up a little payment plan and have her sign it. Who's to say that the next time she turns her back on you wont be when you are in need of some financial assistance (but she comes back when you're stable!) BE CAREFUL!
2006-09-12 08:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, lending financial assistance to someone who is a friend or family can be trying on the relationship. If they don't pay you back that's even worse on the relationship. If you are thinking about lending money to someone who turns their back on you and comes back around, chances are that if you lend them the money that they will turn and probably Not come back around.
I find it best to help them find a side job where they can make the $ that they need without borrowing and putting a friendship/relationship at risk.
If you do lend them money I would say don't expect it back.
Good Luck
2006-09-12 08:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by baby_thumper_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand where you are coming from. Most of the time it pays off being caring and nice to others. In this case I would listen and pehaps offer something other than money, such as speicific items like type of food or ONE tank of gas for their car
I try to remind myself that what goes around does come around when I least expect it. This would be a much better world if everyone was more into others and less into themselves
2006-09-12 08:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have 2 ask your self do u really trust this person, can u rely on them 2 pay u back, if the answer is no than u know what u have 2 do, being a nice person is a great quality 4 a person 2 have but sometimes people tend 2 take advantage, goodluck.
2006-09-12 08:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me.
We have to be careful cause we really wantto help but ususally always get kicked in our azz. I think you have to know what type of help to give.
I think you should help her out Only by giving advice. Not being involved. Give them advice and when you do try not to degrade them or make them feel like they are worthless. not saying u will i just wanna be clear.though.
I've come to realize after being hurt,worrying, understanding,getting kicked in my butt that sometimes the best way to help a person is with words.
ex. tell them where to go for...
how to get there
next time it happens try it like this
They might not like that you are not helping them physically and decide that they are wasting there time cause they can't get what they want from you.
2006-09-13 08:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Nicole I think a good friend would say that its just money and that if you were in their shoes you might think that it took a lot of guts to ask you after being mean and turning their back on you. Stress to them that this is a loan and they have to pay it back asap because its money you need . After all its business and the fastest way to lose a friend is to have to pressure them to pay back money . I think you already knew that you were going to give her the money you just needed to know what others think .
2006-09-12 09:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you have to make a choice on. If you expect the money back make them sign a promissory note. They may never want to be your friends after they owe you money and it does not sound like that would be a great loss.
2006-09-12 08:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i wouldn't. dont mean to be rude i know that u dont think that you are but u do sound like a bit of a push over and that person obviously thinks so to.
you should stand up for yourself for a change. you dont always have to do the right thing by everyone else think of no1.
2006-09-12 08:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by samantha h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this person is someone you trust to pay you back and you really are concerned for them then yes. but if you think they are going to make a habit of using you even if its not intentional, then no. if they turned their back on you once they will over and over just remember that
2006-09-12 08:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋