the mood can't wait, but are there any tips out there for a guy who's tried everything???/ help us!!!!!
2006-09-12 01:34:31 · 14 answers · asked by KAWKAKWKA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, what a question. However, not out of reach. I wish I knew your age. It would make it so much easier to answer this question. If you are both older like in the late 40s early 50s, then it is a hormone thing. If you are young, there maybe some underlying problems that you are not aware of. Or, it could be that you two just need to take more time in foreplay and then spice up your sex life with somethings that are different from the norm for you two. One thing that turns a woman on a lot is the romance of it all. Perhaps you two have fallen into a routine where you just go to bed, kiss, hug, and then have sex. This is OK sometimes, but it gets old. There is nothing to look forward to so the excitement is not there. Perhaps you should try to make a very romantic setting. Like candles lit, soft love songs playing in the back ground, have some fruit sliced up, and some white zinfidel wine or what ever kind you like. Sit this up in your living room where you can lead her to the couch area and sit her on the floor. Take off her shoes, rub her feet and legs a bit. Then while not saying anything, get beside her and feed her pieces of the fruit. Play with her hair, kiss her forehead. Hug her from time to time. Play this out for about 15 or 20 minutes. Then help her up, do a slow dance with her. Even if you can't dance you can stand in one place and rock back and forth. This is very romantic. While dancing put your hands in the small of her back and press her body to yours. Kiss her oh her cheek without putting your face in hers. Just let your face rest on the side of hers or her head. Slowly begin to move to her ears with those kisses. Then to her neck. Slowly begin to remove her clothing while you are still dancing. She should be good and hot for you by this time, but don't have sex yet. Make it even more enticing for her. All the while it is giving you the hard on from hell to see her so excited. Lead her to her back to the couch take a towel and cover the floor area where you two were sitting and spread it out. Lead her to lay on it face down, take some really good smelling lotion and begin to massage her body. Get really close to her vaginal area, but never really touch it. I assure you at this time, that her insides are begging for some good loving. Continue this for at least 10 minutes spread her legs and rub those thighs close enough that the breeze from your fingers makes her think you are going to touch her there but do not touch her there yet. Rub her buttocks and the back of her neck. Roll her over and do the same to her front side. When you massage her breasts, do it softly and just barely pinch her nipples. I mean softly or it may change the mood. Trail kisses down her abdomen and stop just above the clitoral area to where she just feels your hot breath. I bet you by this time she can hardly hold herself still. Move your way down her legs rubbing and kissing. When you come back up, spread those legs wide, kiss her thighs, barely letting your tongue touch her there as you move from thigh to thigh. Tell her that she really make you feel like a man. Tell her that you want her. Ask her if she wants you. If you both agree on wanting each other, then begin your love making. After you have finished, hold her in your arms. This makes her feel loved and appreciated.
While this is good for one time, it to will get old if you do it every time, so spice up things. Try role playing with her. Sometimes you could just give her a bath. Bathe all the parts just enough to make her hot. After the bath you two should be so hot for each other. Variety is the spice of life. So dare to be different and try some new things. This is just some examples of things you could do. I know you could find other things to do as well. I hope i have not been to explicit here, but I wanted you to get the idea of how this will make her feel, and how it will enhance your love life with her. Lots of luck.
2006-09-12 02:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by ktmazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm no expert but I do know that sometimes u just go thru like a dry patch when u don't want it as much..most of the time it comes back but u have to look at other factors in her life. If she has a good bit of stress going on right now with family or work or whatever then that could be a part of it
2006-09-12 08:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by bella_donna111 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Proposing marriage, putting a diamond on her finger and pronouncing a close wedding date will definitely do the trick but in case your heart isn't in that, I would suggest that you become more emotionally attentive towards her and/or more sexually assertive. Depending on what she's thinking emotionally one of these will work. A combo of all three will drive her into a sexual FRENZY that will keep you exhausted (LOL)!
2006-09-12 08:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kaitlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you be more romantic to put her in the mood everyday do small little special things give her alot of attention and compliments tell her you love her as much as possible and tell she is the sexiest women alive and she makes you feel complete and you love making love her gorgeous body and when you do make love whisper sexy hot stuff into her year make her feel like she is special in bed that she rocks your world, im a women and i go absolutely crazy when my partner tells me how fabulous i am and that no one can satisfy his needs like i do. hope that helps...
2006-09-12 09:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read all the other answers then remember these things: relieve her stress and have foreplay! Maybe she needs to have fun before foreplay like going to the movies, a nice restaurant, walk in the park (why not try it there ;-)
2006-09-14 16:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are alot of reasons a girls sex drive diminishes, she could be stressed it could b hormones so if she is on contraception maybe she needs to go to the doctors and talk to them tiredness is always a good one, maybe u should talk to her and find out why she isnt that it it might just b hormones which is fixable good luck to u guys
2006-09-12 08:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by brandy w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's bored with you therefore she wants it less (law of diminishing returns)
Suggest you have a cock extension ir perhaps take extra charm lessons.
2006-09-12 08:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spice things up a bit, try a bit of swinging
2006-09-12 08:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lilolme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something is bothering her. Did you guys argue over a sensitive subject?
2006-09-12 08:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by marie1257 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do like i did just tell her that just because she wants to be a ice queen don't mean stuff has to change for you if she sees it your way good and if not then kick her to the curb
2006-09-12 08:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋