I was friends with this girl at uni, but over the last few months, we hardly talk. Im interested in her, but she has a boyfriend.
I understand that whilst there is a boyfriend, there can be nothing between us.
We used to talk heaps, or say hey, wave or make some kind of comunication when ever we saw each other (catching eye across room).
If one of us walked in lec, and saw other we'd walk past tap on shoulder and say something. now when i walk in i advert eyes sit down, and spend rest of time thinking about talking to her.
I want to talk so bad, yet i just cant.
I miss the friendship, im not worried about a possible relationship atm. It used to make my day when we had a talk.
Ive invited her out twice, 1+2 weeks ago, but she was busy, and said she be busy for next 2 weeks aswell. My mates say that she may feel awkward with bf, if she hangs out with a guy. But when we were talking more she invited me out few times
What can i do, i just want to spend time with her?
2006-09-12 01:31:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call them and sort it out
2006-09-12 01:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lilolme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young ladies, and young men, can have more than one friend of the opposite sex at a time. Since you seem non-threatening to her relationship with her boyfriend and just want a friendship at this time, go for it. Would you abandon a buddy just because he had a girlfriend? Smile, be friendly, and go out as friends if that makes you both happy. Who knows, down the line other things may develop and if not, you will still always be good friends. Both of my children, young adults now, have always had a lot of friends of the opposite sex. In fact, my son has a young woman who is such a good friend he thought about having her as his best girl (instead of best man) at his wedding.
So call her up, chat and maybe meet for coffee. At the least, go back to smiling and being friendly and see what happens. I promise she won't bite you (unless you want her to - just kidding!).
Have a great day!
2006-09-12 08:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by dddanse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't worry. She might just think her close friendship with a boy might affect her elationship with her boyfirend. Im a girl, I have a boyfriend aswell as boy mates but it took me some time to get used to my boyfriend and my boy mates around. Trust me its really hard for a girl to change frienship into relationship so give her some time and try for another girl. Just remember their are many fish in the pond. You might want THAT fish in perticular but if you dont act wisely you'll go hungry so look for another fish is my advice
2006-09-12 08:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cute kit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at this point all you can do is be a friend to her. If she has a b/f and wants to still hang with you sometimes maybe she has some feelings toward you she wants to sort out or she could just like having guy friends. My best advice is talk to her, you can't really be a freind to her if your avoiding her. Good LucK!
2006-09-12 08:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun I think you have to accept she has a boyfriend and yes may feel awkward going out with just you on your own I know its not what you want to hear, there has to be loads of other girls at Uni who you could make friends with and possibly have a relationship with - go have fun - your at Uni and are young so enjoy it !
2006-09-12 08:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by kinnoishere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she started to feel guilty. It seems as tho initially there was some kind of attraction that she thought she could just pass off as friendship. But deep down she realized it was more; maybe she liked you or was infatuated by you. But anyways it seems as tho her loyalty to her bf got the best of her and she realized that she should backdown before things go too far or get back to her bf. In other wards she didnt want to tempt herself, she had to fight temptation and leave it alone.
2006-09-12 08:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep saying hello and chatting with her when you can, right now all you can be is friends, and that will have to do. Tell her that you value the friendship and you don't want to intrude on her b/f. Make sure you keep it simple..maybe someday she will see you as something else. Make sure you check out other girls and don't just obsess about her.
2006-09-12 08:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday!!!!!....read what u wrote..."she said she was busy, and she'd be busy for the next 2 weeks"...HELLO!!!!..catch the clue.
she's not interested in you. she has a bf. but if you really like her. start hanging around other girls in front of her..and see what happens. she'll either start talking to you again or she continue to ignore you....goodluck.
2006-09-12 08:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is ubsure of her feelings and what to do about it. I would suggest the two of you meet and talk this over and take it from there.
2006-09-12 09:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to be your "study buddy". Then you can have conversation and learn at the same time.
2006-09-12 08:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by papabear7630 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just walk up to her and say we are friend are we not ,and then ask her to go with you for a drink or what ever you do as friends
2006-09-12 08:35:19 · answer #11 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋