How do you tame a two year old?

Question

My sister is about two and throws the most horrible tantrums, and we dont know how to make her behave. If we try and tell her to stop she yells or hits; she even hits and butes my mom. I mean come on this is just rediculus right? Does anyone have and solutions?

Answer 1

Does she have a short attention span? Is her speech unclear or 'rambling' like? If yes, she may be having Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. I suggest couselling with a psychologist or therapist (no this doesnt mean she's mad or anything, it is just a child behavioural problem). They will give you good advice and how to manage her. If she does have it and your family ignores it she could develop bipolar disorder in the future. So nip it in the bud!

OR

Does she like to play alone? Does she avoid eye contact? Does she have unnatural attention to one particular object for long periods of time? If yes to all this, it could be social autism. Again, you have to see a therapist for this as autistic children need special care and management.

Answer 2

We watch Supernanny and Nanny 911. Jo Frost/Supernanny says to stoop down to the child's eye level and firmly (without yelling) tell her what she is doing is not acceptable. Then put her in a time out (the length of time is one minute per year of age). If she gets up, just silently keep putting her back until she stays. When she finally lasts the 2 minutes, she must apologize to you, then you give her a big hug and let her be free. When she misbehaves, repeat the process. I've seen it work countless times on the show. Can't hurt to try it. Also, try to watch the show when it starts again this Fall. You'll probably love it! Nanny 911 has already begun and is great, too.

Answer 3

Has your Mom spoken to her child's doctor about this. Sometimes behavior problems are caused by food allergies and chemical imbalances. If this is not the case, then your Mom and the rest of the family, as well as the devil child, all need a few counseling sessions to help you all better understand how to control her.

Obviously this child needs rules set our and enforced. We had a "time out" spot in the kitchen (small bench) where my children had to sit when they misbehaved. They could not watch TC, read or play there. Just sit quietly. Time outs started at 5 minutes, went to 15, 30 and an hour. My son only made it to the hour once and after that we had little to no problems. Kids crave limits and respect those making them feel safe by enforcing them. They may act like they don't like rules, but in reality they know that rules and limits protect them.

If your sister is out of control - as stated earlier, you may need outside help. Good luck to you all.

Answer 4

The thing that worked for me is, whenever they start having a fit, just ingnore them, I mean completely ignore them. Walk away, or just sit there and say nothing. Kids have these tantrums cause they are wanting a reaction from you. Once they realize that they are not getting the reaction they want, they will stop. It won't happen over night, but in a few weeks you may see a big difference.

Answer 5

I am probably not the one to answer this but believe me when that little brat went off on me like that I'd spank her little bottom with my hand and sooner or later she would get off that tantrum thing because she would see that I throw them as well. I am mother of 5 girls all grown, 26 grands ,and i also raised my two godchildren after my best friend died ,so believe me i am speaking from experience and not from anger. spare the rod you spoil the child. I didn't say abuse the child. i didn't say whip the child with a belt or any object. I didn;t say slap the child in the face as I don't believe in that,but a good old hand to the butt, well that always works.

Answer 6

I'd say stick her in a room where nothing can harm her and make her stay there for a few minutes at a time every time she does something crazy. I heard that some parents try to control their children by holding them down, or keeping them on their lap, and it's still giving them attention, which is what they want. Every small child will try biting at least once, or pinching, but I'd lightly tap her mouth or her hand when she bites or pinches.

Answer 7

Sounds like the "terrible two's"....
When she throws her fits (as long as she poses no danger to herself) WALK AWAY... all she is trying to do is get attention. Once she realizes she wont get it, they may stop.
As for the biting and hitting.... Do it back to her... Not hard, just enough to get her attention and let her know how it feels to be treated that way...(yes I do believe in tough love)
It worked wonders with my daughter when she was two... She bit me one time and I bit her back and asked her how she liked it, and to my surprise she never bit anyone again.... (she is 9 now... we have bigger issues)
Same thing with the hitting.... hit her back and ask her how it feels, when she says it doesnt feel good, tell her that, that is how she makes other people feel when she does it to them.....
Then just talk to her about it.... Let her know that she is loved, but she just cant act that way because it really hurts other people's feelings..

Just a suggestion from my own experience with my daughter when she was going thru that TERRIBLE "stage"...........
Hope it helps...

Good Luck

Answer 8

As another responder has mentioned.... its a boy, because of the fact woman birdies cant communicate. it is going to take him a while to get used to you. permit the cage door open, he will come out exploring finally and could come to you. once you alter the water and food do it at his point, see in case you are able to kneel and positioned your hand in there, no longer in basic terms bend over, it has to do with the completed supremacy/who's bigger then the different element it is a factor of fowl nature. additionally modern-day your finger/hand/arm each and every so often yet without tension. See if he lowers his head for petting his neck, if he does do exactly that yet do no longer attempt to tension him out. He has some getting used-to to be carried out.

Answer 9

Sounds like your sister is in control of the family. Your mom is letting her get away with it and not being consistent. If it works for your sister, she is going to continue that behavior. Your mom needs to put her foot down, be consistent and discipline your sister.

Answer 10

First and foremost, don't get angry.... Reassure her that she is loved. Secondly, see a pediatric physician to determine if there is a physical problem causing these outbursts. Generally there is a simple answer such as diet , etc.