2006-09-12 01:07:45 · 23 answers · asked by Justin W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This question is a very easy to answer, but hard to understand matter. Often times when a person has been hurt, they tend to put up a wall. This wall is protection. Security so to speak. This is not just for women it happens with men as well. With men it is even harder to get around that wall. However, the wall, no matter how tall or thick, can be broken down. Most are afraid of being hurt again so that is why they do not want to be so free with the feelings. One thing we have not learned so well in this life is that being hurt is just a part of life. There is good and bad in everything. We just need to change our way of looking at things. This woman, who ever she is, might respect it more if a person were to say..........Girl, I can not promise you that 10 years down the road we will be together, I can't promise you that we will not have hard time, I can not promise you that we will not ever have arguments, I can not promise you that we will always see eye to eye, but right now I can promise you that I want to give it a try to get there. Let's go slow and see where this road takes us. She may be more willing if she is not made false promises or empty promises. Tell her that you are just a normal man who really wants to see your lives grow together. Tell her that one day she will see that your heart is in the right place if she will only give it a try. If she has even a hint of feelings for you, this will remove a block or two from that wall. Then be yourself. If you can not be yourself, and you have to try to impress her all the time, chances are she is not really interested in you that way. Life throws us so many things and sorting through them is sometimes hard and painful. However, when you accept them as truth, it makes it easier to deal with the hard times. I feel I have danced around what I really wanted to say, but the truth is, I do not have much to go on here from your question. If I knew more about how she is responding to you, I would be able to tell you more. I wish you luck in your relationship with this woman. Just bare in mind, that sometimes we read things one way because it is what we want to see which always pushes the truth of things to the side. Be careful not to deceive yourself.
2006-09-12 01:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by ktmazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are nervous and guarding our hearts. When we get hurt once we tend to think that men are all the same. I know it's not fair to you guys, but it takes extra love from your side to make us trust again. When we put all we have into a relationship, and we get trampled on, it feels like there is nothing left, and we wasted our time and feelings.
2006-09-12 08:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dre 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they do they are woman and they do not make any sense.
Just tell her not to blame you for something that someone else did to her,and let her know that you are on to her.Give her a wake up call and make her know that you are not an oblivious idiot.
She will respect you for it and probably will make it up to you in a good way ;) for her idiotic behavior.
2006-09-12 08:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y is it dat u say dat only a woman finds it tough 2 accept da next one..
is it always dat a guy hurts a female...n not vice versa ??
my friend...once bitten twice shy..once u get hurt...ur gonna take all precautions 2 trust some1 again...
its not easy 2 be loved n hurted...whether its a man or a woman...everything depends on how serious were they in dat particular relationship...
wen a heart breaks it never makes a sound...but da pain it leaves u wid...stays for a long time...n smetimes takes a lifetime 2 heal...
sme1 who loved n lost..knows how it feels...
whether its a guy or a girl....its da same heart...
just da 1 whose hurting em is different in all cases...
but da pain is same
2006-09-12 08:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is because her trust was broken, and if it happens a couple times or more to a person it just keeps getting more difficult to knock down those walls of self protection to trust again.
2006-09-12 08:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by K~ (AKA Korndog/Girlnut) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because when we trust someone, we devote ourselves entirely and when that trust has been broken, we're not so easily wanting to open our heart for more betrayal anytime soon, i know its difficult when the woman your seeing is like this, but all it takes is time and honesty from you.
2006-09-12 08:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because a person learns from experience, so just reacting to defend herself
2006-09-12 08:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by DEE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she is bitter, stupid, selfish, and not ready to date. A person has to get over the pain and anger that someone else caused, before they can treat another person right.
2006-09-12 08:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not everyone. she doesn't want to be fooled for the second time. wen a dog bites you the first time the dog is crazy, but if the dog bites you the second time i think you're the one that is crazy.
2006-09-12 08:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by nelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because her trusting a man is out the window it takes time to win back trust
2006-09-12 08:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋