Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??
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But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?
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5 hours ago
I mean she's never beenin a relationship, so she could be scared, will anything ever happen in the future, I mean I am respecting her wishes, and she knows that, We havent talked about it for a long time, could anything possibly happen in the future??
2006-09-12 01:00:17 · 12 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok...you want honest.....WAY TOO LONG......
2006-09-12 01:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ricknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Give her time. Friendship is one of the most powerful forms of love there is. I know it hurts you to see her with other guys, but sometimes those we love must go through a lot of attractive bad times [attractive, because they were really great in the beginning, but bad, because of how they turned out], before they begin to realize the best choice of all.
Be her friend, but also keep your options open for other girls. People always seem to want what they cannot have, and if you start getting interested in other girls, she may begin to see you in a different light, because new loves tend to redirect our friendship, and thus she would be losing you as a boyfriend and as a friend. But do not use someone to make her jealous; for it will back fire.
2006-09-12 08:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - stop obsessing over this girl!. I know, easier said than done. As hard as it may be, you need to take this time to find something you enjoy doing, or hang out with other friends. It doens't matter what she thinks or if she is afraid to get in a relationship at this point. She knows you are interested in more than a friendship so let her be. Just don't be her 'stand by'. That is the guy that she goes to when there is no one else around. You can't control what another person does or how they feel, so let her be. She may realize you are the one she wants to be with.
2006-09-12 08:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yo dude, I admire you for respecting her decision. As most guys that is twice your age won't be able to do that. My advice to you would be to be her friend and be there for her no matter what. Sooner or later she will realise that the guy of her dreams have been staring her in the face all this time. Trust me, it happened to me! She does have a crush on you and would prefer to take things further but she is looking for a guarantee that you guys will work out. So give her time to work through her emotions. If I was you I would not pay much attention to the other guys. As she is proving to herself that there is no other guy out there that can take your place. So be patient, all good things come to those that wait. Don't rush, don't make any advancing moves on her. When she is ready to take a step further she will be sure to let you know. So be a friend to her, a friend that she can count on through anything no matter the circumstances and she will see the light that there is someone that loves her dearly and will do anything to make her happy in this life. Be strong amigo.
2006-09-12 08:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might think 2 years apart isnt that bad. She just stopped playing with bratz barbie dolls last year and probably still does occasionally. Girls that age normally like a different guy every day and write each other notes about it. Girls this age are not ready for REAL dating yet.
Wait two years, but by then they can arrests your for sagitory rape. JUST MOVE ON!!
2006-09-12 08:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! Stop obsessing over her, she is obviously not interested in anything more than friendship, so, be cool and just be her friend, there is so much more time in your life to find another girl and surely there are more important things in your life to think about. Just carry on being her friend and drop it. Move on, be a man and forget about it.
2006-09-12 08:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by Acasia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're still pondering over this, huh? I think it is best that you find another girl, or just wait a while for this one, she may come around. Hate to tell you, but 13 is still a baby! Just take her words for just what they say. You should aim your energies elsewhere and try to move on now dearheart.
2006-09-12 08:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she really started liking you - for more than friends and it scared her. She doesn't want to lose your friendship so she backed off. Good luck. Just be yourself and it will all work out. Don't act different with her.
2006-09-12 08:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be yourself,always tell that you care for her and want to go beyond ordinary friend
2006-09-12 08:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by Dutchie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you both are young and need time and space.be friends,other things may develop
2006-09-12 08:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by ivanna m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋