Do you think jealousy is an illness, that can destroy a relationship, constant unfounded accusations, would you put up with it, or could it get dangerous?
2006-09-12 00:57:25 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jealousy is a terrible thing and usually comes hand in hand with control. If your partner is jealous they are more than likely controlling as well. This type of relationship is very destructive and soul destroying. Anyone in this situation should get out.
2006-09-12 01:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think there are two types of Jealousy. One: when we are jealous over someone having a better car than us etc. This is def. wrong. Then there is Jealousy of the heart, if you truly love someone you are bound to be jealous if they are getting attention from others. I think that it is okay to be Jealous but only if that does not restrict on your partners rights. Hey, it shows you really love and care for that person, if you didn't you would not get jealous right. Of course if the Jealousy gets out of hand and becomes violent or even infringes upon your freedom to chose then yes there is a problem. I think you have to have an open mind and ask yourself are you doing anything that could anger the situation like - spending loads of nights out with the girls/boys without your partner etc. You have every right to go out by yourself but I think you know what I mean..........I mean going alone all the time.
2006-09-12 01:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy in a relationship can only mean doom. That's why most couples break up really. If you are jealous, can you really say that you trust your partner? You can't have trust and be jealous as this is a total contradiction. So think about it? Jealousy is definitely not going to keep the love flame burning it will only be destroying it.
2006-09-12 01:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not stay in a relationship like that. The root reason why this person is throwing unfounded accusations at you will be a deeply embedded one. No amount of perfect behaviour or understanding will help them get over it, you are not going to be able to cure them. Only they can do that and only when they acknowledge, first of all to themselves, that it is totally unacceptable and they have a serious problem.
It is not your job to be someone's saviour and so, yes, get out now. It won't get better.
2006-09-12 01:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by retro_girl34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could NOT do it. I was engaged to a guy about 4 years ago and that is the final reason why I called it off. I could deal with just about all his other shortcomings for life, but not that one. It caused me to feel like he was "bringing other people" into the relationship. The accusations and insecurities just made life a little hellish. I wouldn't put up with it. A little jealousy is human, but anything more than flirty, humorous play is cause for concern.
2006-09-12 01:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy (as you know) can be a VERY destructive emotion. The fact that you are asking the question is good. You are evaluating the position. Only you can answer that.
If the answer to the following question is "Yes" then get out.
Have you ever felt or been threatened by your partner in a jealous rage?
2006-09-12 01:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is an illness and I have put up with it so to say, or well i have for a bit but it COMPLETLEY destroys relationships. that persons insecurities completley take over the reality of whats happening. it does get dangerous, the best thing you can do if your having any of these problems is to talk about them and if that doesn't change things, move on. Its there fault not yours.
2006-09-12 01:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by CazW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way would I put up with that relationship. It will make a person anxious, unhappy, exhausting, trying to deal with the jealous persons insecurities. And, it will get to be dangerous when the abnormal jealousy gets that person to lose their sense of reality and harm may come to the person involve with them. If you are the one in this type of relationship get out now.......
2006-09-12 01:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons of jealousy are two 1. your partner loves you tooooo
much and is very possessive and that is good in one way. 2. it is inferiority complex, it can be sorted out with mutual understanding.
One must not find it difficult to cope up with such a partner.
Well in other cases anything overdose leads to intoxication and is dangerous.
2006-09-12 01:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by vasi s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very wary, jealousy can eat someone up from the inside.
One side effect of it can be that the person turns into a control freak and that is NOT good.
My second husband ended up by trying to kill me and it was all because of jealousy
2006-09-12 01:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋