I suffered terribly for 10 years with a controlling manipulative step father whom my mother refused to leave. Did anybody out there have the same problem? Psychological bullying and the like. how does it affect you now you are grown up??
2006-09-12 00:43:20 · 7 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My step father did all he could to remind me I was not his biological child. I endured beatings and being berated to the point of contemplating suicide. He drank and beat me like there was no tomorrow but my mother stayed anyway. He talked to her liked a dog but she was always right there with a smile. I have had a very turbulent relationship with my mother over the last 20 years. Last November my step father died. I remember how I use to pray he would die but when he did I felt cheated. He got to treat us like scum for years and years and never had to apologize for anything he did. He died a long horrible death in a bout with cancer. The human suffering was terrible but the man got off easy compared to what I dealt with and still have to deal with. I have to be extra careful when I get really upset with my daughters so that the habits I learned from him do not spill over into their lives. If he did not want the responsibility of children that were not his, why did he marry my mother. He could have had a fling and walked away.
2006-09-12 01:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by cytopia1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but as a child I use to think Walt Disney used my step mom for a role for the wicked step mother in Cinderella
We make choices in life and I have decided NOT to let my bad childhood, etc ruin my life. When life gives you lemons make lemonade and have a lemonade party instead of a pity party. You keep more friends that way too : )
2006-09-12 01:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a step-father that was sexually abusive to me. It just made me more determined that once I was an adult and on my own I would make sure I made the right choices and have a happy life, and not let "him" ruin the rest of my life like he did my childhood. Unfortunately you can't change the past, so you have to put it out of your mind and go on.
2006-09-12 02:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by mtk721 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a stepmother, still do that was a total *****.
She spanked me and my sister all the time, and barely corrected her own daughter. AND....she claimed God talked to her.
I haven't talked to her in years. And I don't intend too anytime soon. I wish she would die. Sounds mean, but I have no use for people like that.
Getting over it is very hard to do. It affects me in many ways. I still think about it, and it hurts.
2006-09-12 00:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by Villain 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of hate in my life for bad men. And very protective over my 2 girls. My step dad went on to sexually abuse 2 or more other girls. He is now a register sex offender. Wish he was dead .
2006-09-12 00:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by jen 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible!!! I haven't gone thru this, my mother never remarried but I'm sorry for you.
2006-09-12 00:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be glad that ur not around that situation anymore, live ur own life, and just be happy. and forget about it, it's not worth remembering.
2006-09-12 01:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋