2006-09-12 00:42:58 · 13 answers · asked by Tate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I respect that you don't like bars or night clubs. And I don't trust introduction agencies either, if you mean those places where you sign up and rely on someone to choose a suitable match for you.
But if you also mean that you're not prepared to sign on to internet dating, or try speed dating or other singles events, then honey, how do you expect to meet ANY men?
In the old days, people had extended families, so there was a good chance you'd meet the friend of a cousin or an uncle or someone. And people lived close to work, so there was a good chance you'd socialise with your workmates and get to know them or their friends, too.
Nowadays, we barely see our parents let alone our first cousin twice removed. And we dash out of work after too many hours, because we have a long commute home. So you can't expect to meet a man the way your mother or grandmother did. Like it or not, you have to accept that times have changed.
If you wanted to buy a house or a car, you wouldn't say "I'm not going to do my research, or go to the places where houses or cars are sold - I'm just going to drive around my neighbourhood and wait for the right one to fall in my lap." And yet a husband is much more important to you than a house or a car. So why do you think it should be any easier to find?
The internet is the place to go. Browse the dating sites until you find one that is focussed on finding serious relationships - there are some that are more about sex than life partners. Then don't be a feeble old-fashioned girl and wait for men to contact you - email them. Don't waste time chatting. If the man's details look like a good match, ask for his phone number and arrange to meet for coffee. Don't give him any of your contact details and meet somewhere public, so you're not taking any risks. What have you got to lose?
2006-09-12 00:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as the perfect man. So better go for the next best thing. Hasn't have to be a bar, could be the beach, the gym, your office at work, the flight you might take to go on holiday, a friend's party. One thing is for sure, you need to socialize!
2006-09-12 07:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly looking for a 'perfect' anything is bound to bring disappointment...
secondly you don't need to be introduced or hang around in bars - but you must be out there giving yourself the best opportunity to meet one. Unless you are really young, have a lot of time and have a lot of faith in destiny - you should get out there now, meet people go to social events at work etc...
2006-09-12 07:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if we knew that they'rd be no single women in the world!! Have you tried joining a club or something? Other than that Im not much use to you im afraid! If you do find out - let me know!!!
2006-09-12 07:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church.I hear that you can find the best husbands there but obviously you would have to go to church for the right reasons and the perks should follow.
2006-09-12 07:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have 2 look 4 him...da right guy will find his way 2 u...eva heard sumthin like marriages r made in heaven? God already decided ur partner & wen da right tym comes God will send him in2 ur life...
2006-09-12 07:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by cute devil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you never know whats round the corner what are you looking for in a man ???
2006-09-12 11:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo personals is great
You might not believe in them, but they do exist *wink*
2006-09-12 07:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you go to church, volunteer anywhere??? That might help!!! It could be worth a try!!!
2006-09-12 07:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always the work place or the streets
2006-09-12 07:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋