Can a boy who is babied by his mother grow up to be a strong independent man?

Question

I've asked this question before but Im unsatisfied with the answers. I'm 13 and in love with this 13 year old boy. He's my hearts desire and I dream of marrying him someday. The responses before were I was overbearing, stealing his childhood, and unable to know what love really means. Jamie is sweet and innocent. His mom carefully watches him and even sets an 8:30 bedtime for him. He's tall, thin, very cute but extremely strong because he exercises on an obstacle course in the afternoons in the park. He's often taunted as a sissy but I assure you his large boyish bulge that he gets when he's near me reassures me he's no sissy. He's very brave and once intervened to help a stranger who was being robbed much to the chagrin of all who love him. He and I are both virgins and I intend to keep it that way until we both reach an age when we can marry. I dream of taking him inside of me forever.

Some people think that im 53 yrs old or a man (yuck!) or just older because of my writing style. They think its too good for a 13 yr old. It good because my middle school requires all the teachers to correct writing (syntax, grammer, spelling) even if their subject is not English. It's true of the gifted, regular and special ed programs ( I'm in the gifted program). Jamie's in special ed and I met him over the summer at day camp. His mom wanted to pay me to give him unofficial tutoring but as a community service I offered to help him for free. His spelling is atrocious, but I still work with him. His teachers correct his writing too. I'm kind of my dad's girl, serious when I have to be but like in my dad's case, sometimes my mom calls him her third child. I hope this explains why my writing is so good.

Answer 1

gee, you seem to really like him. thats sweet. you are both 13 so its gonna take awhile before the age of marriage. you were talking about a bulge so i guess you both have went through puberty, and i think it is a good idea to wait. most people never wait, and thats ok too. im going to try to answer youre questions in the order you put them. overbearing. well you might or might not be. but you do seem to like him alot if youre asking about this. stealing his childhood? you are the same age right. if so you are both sharing, that is not stealing. unable to know what love really means? no younger people can fall in love too. the age of a person is just a number. as long as you both are the same age even though you are younger than the legal age to have sex it is ok, it would be very wrong for either of you to have a lover over the age of 18. its only 5 years difference but it would be illegal. and a felony which is a very serious crime. not just jail. its serious prison time with a felony. now if you are 18 or older you can date whoever you want as long as they are atleast 18. doesnt matter if they are 88. its good to hold out until you are legal age to do so. have respect for yourself and make sure youre partner has equal respect. relationships are a two way street. there has to be equal input from both people. and you both have to give too. as far as his mother babying him. is he an only child? or did she have another child that passed away?. maybe she had an abortion or gave another child up for adoption many years ago so she protects him too much. i think if you really like this boy so much you should be friends first and get familiar with his family. and youre family should also get to know his family if you really feel that strong about it. i am slightly puzzled by one thing though. you say you are 13. by the way you spell correctly and use proper pronunciation i dont think you are 13. if you really are that young and you have such a great understanding of the english language then i must say that you are a perfect student in youre classes. if you understand youre mathematic classes as well i think you might be very successfull in life. good luck to you, and god speed. its just a phrase. but the dixie chicks did a song by that name and it was really good. my best advice in life is two things. never ever lie about anything or especially anyone. and the second piece of advice is to not talk too much. you will probably see and hear alot of weird things in youre life. just discard all of that information and never repeat it. trust comes from people that dont talk. a silent person is a trustworthy person. a trustworthy person is a friend. god speed to you my friend. i hope you know how to use it.

Answer 2

People say things about this question because you are so young. And others would want to give you the right information, or just feel you are too young to feel this way. I have a 13 year old boy too, so I can kindof understand your thinking. I hope this helps you. Remember you are only 13, but its ok to have these feelings for a boy. They sound like healthy feeling! And from what I understand neither of you are considering at this time to have sex. So you have a positive attitude there. Be proud of yourself. I know others that have dated since they were as young as you and our happily married today. You sound as if you are a very wise 13 year old and have morals. Time will tell what life has in store for you, and if this boy is met to be then it will happen for you. But please allow yourself the time to develope and be your age. All things come to those who wait. Your feelings sound strong and this boy sounds like a possible future for you. But honey, when it is time. But I can tell you already know this. As for your question. Yes a boy who has been babied by his mother can grow up and be independent man. Mom teach children how to care, and love, and be good in life. And all those kids that call him a sissy will be amazed when they see him later in life. My theory to my children is: If you ain't got nothing nice to say, then don't say nothing at all. So don't worry about what others say or think. Trust in what your parents have taught you and use it through life. Good luck, your thoughts about life are in the right place. You just have to hold off a few years to use them.

Answer 3

Your strong feelings--to say nothing of your great writing ability--indicate a quite advanced young lady!

Many great men were 'babied' by their mothers. Strong nurtuing tendencies produces resilient, capable offspring if the child has inherent good character. It is hard to 'spoil' a good basic child, just as it is difficult to 'improve' a bad one.

Now, let's talk about YOU. With all your talents, you need to work on becoming an accomplished young lady in your own right, so that you will be worthy of this young Adonis when he is mature. Some things I would recommend are to study art, music, science, and to get a pet to spend some of that nurturance and affection that impels you so strongly toward him. Hopefully, you also take up athletic pursuits, to create the strong bones and overall good health you will need to keep up with him later.

Good luck and much success to both of you!

Answer 4

You're both too young to even be contemplating marriage now. Time will tell you when its right. In the interim, you both will grow and mature with all your other friends. Keep in touch with a lot of them frequently. Exchange ideas about life and everything else that matters. And above all , get a good education and think about what you want to do after you reach adulthood. Life is tough and only the toughest succeed in it. This is a measure of your ability to maintain a relationship. If it is good, it will survive.

Answer 5

He CAN grow up, but he is going to have a hard time doing it soon, and that is mostly because of his mama. When he is ready to leave the nest, from the sound of this mother she would break his wings to keep him there. If he trys to dump the relation ship with the mother she is going to be upset, then even more upset if he then goes after you. She is propobly going to feel she has to elimanate the girl, probably you, to get back her baby. You are both competing for a prize, but the mother can play dirty if she wants. If you really love this guy, you will have to go through all of this, it will be very tough.

Answer 6

A lot of factors can change a character of a person.
Babied by his mother is just one of those.
He is just 13, when he grow up, mix around with more friends, he will change. Besides, 13 year old is still very young. Go steady, and decide later when both are more mature.

Answer 7

My child is 13 too and I would do the same. His mother is not babying him she is being a good parent. At 13 you shouldn't even be thinking of marriage be a child while you still can you have the rest of your life to worry about marriage.

Answer 8

Mommas boys stay attached to their mother for life...there are alot of them that wont even leave home when they can just to "take care" of their mother. I was engaged to a guy who was a mommas boy...That didnt work out because like I have seen before The mommas boy picked his mother over me , The worst part Is i didnt find out it was going on until a mutual friend of his told me....funny part is they are living together in flordia and he hasnt had a gf sence me.

Answer 9

First of all, at 13, you really shouldn't be thinking of a physical relationship. You're asking for children at an early age (just speaking from personal experience! and at 13, I really wasn't thinking like that!).

Answer 10

Yes he can BUT try to keep in mind that he will always be by his mothers side. Meaning if she calls then he will be there. In plain english as much of a man he may become he will be a moma's boy.