What makes a man a real man?

Question

The quest for true masculinity.

As I expected a whole range of answers.

Answer 1

... It was a key moment in my quest to define the concept of manhood... I continue to believe that 'boyishness' is an attractive characteristics in a man, it is important for the human male at some point to recognise that he has indeed become a man. And not a lad.

If I have any fixed views about what constitute a 'real' man, it is one who is connected to the 'real' world. This means someone who has taken on the responsibilities of real life and gains his integrity from them. This sound pompous and dull, but at some age you come to realise that real man are not necessarily the ones who race fast cars, heli-ski on glaciers, or join the SAS.


They are the man who get on with their jobs, try to make their families happy, do their bit for other people occasionally - then wonder vaguely why their lives do not contain much racing, heli-skiing or going behind enemy lines.

The commitment on marriage, to children, to parents, to the wider community, is the antithesis of the lad culture that tries to promote a version of masculinity, which, though superficially attractive, is essentially infantile. It is about refusal not merely to grow old but also to grow up.

I am pretty sure that a real man does not read lads' mags, hang out with the lads, or believe solely in the lads' trinity of frootie, tottie, and beer. I am not suggesting that he has to be celibate, teetotoal and fond on of chess, but I am firmly convinced that the adult male or a real modern metrosexual man can be and should be a more developed creature than this limited representation the media would have you believe in.

Answer 2

If
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream -- and not make dreams your master;
If you can think -- and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings -- nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And -- which is more -- you'll be a Man, my son!

Answer 3

Real man vs. masculinity are two separate entities. There are a lot of masculine hulks who have a lot of growing up to do before they become a real man.

Answer 4

You become a man when your balls drop end of story and stario type's of what a man is.

What kind of man you become is what really matters. You have a choose to be a good man or a low life. Thats all up to you now. Hope you chose wisely.

Answer 5

1 He works 2 Takes care of his family 3 loves his wife 4 loves his kids. This is just a start.

Answer 6

When he doesn't need to ask for validation of his masculinity. When does what's right, not what's popular. When his concern for others is greater than the concern for himself. When he walks to the beat of his own drum. When he can face challenges instead of running away. When he can look you in the eyes and tell you the truth.

When he does what's right, not what's easiest.

Answer 7

Looking after his family, Sticking to his morals, Standing up for his beliefs, not being down trodden, sticking his chest out and keeping a poker face even when he is scared. Being able to appear emotion less when he wants to blub, being able to be blind drunk and look cool and not taking it up the Gary Glitter or wearing womens underwear (unless hes a Lumberjack).

Answer 8

Integrity

Answer 9

some want somebody shorter than themselves, needless to say they do no longer want thus far a female who sounds like an avatar status beside them. i think of a guy might affiliate being the taller interior the couple as manly, and probably sense much less masculine in the event that they're the shorter one interior the couple. it rather is an identical with loads of girls who could like a taller guy with the aid of fact they sense secure and extra maintain than relationship somebody their very own top or shorter than they're. each to their very own :)

Answer 10

Moral and ethical behavior. Compassion. Humility, but tenacity when staring down evil. Power tools.