my finacee's dad is being diffcult abt us gettin married,and we are so confused we dnt know what to i mean we cant go ahead gettin married without his dad cosent, any tips on how to handle this issue
2006-09-11 23:53:10 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you and your fiancee need to seriously sit down and sort out what is bothering his dad. Then think up how this can be solved. Im sorry i cannot offer any futher guidence but the fact of the matter is this : its your family. nobody eles here on yahoo answers can answer this for you and im not going to pretend that i can, you really need to sort this with your fiancee. I know that this will be a very stressful time for you becasue weddings are already hard enough to organise but im sure that you and your to-be-husband will fight till the end. just remember STAY COOL and everything will fall in place.
2006-09-11 23:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~*.::. sAy--wAatT.:.*~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The important thing here is that you and your finacee truly love eachother. If that's the case, I think you two should definately get married regardless of what your finacee's dad is telling his son or to the both of you. I think he should accept the fact that you guys are in love, are meant to be together for eternity and if he's not willing to support the two of you like how your own parents and family are willing to support you then don't invite your future father in-law. Once you guys are married I'm definately sure that your future father in-law will come around. Just give it some time.
2006-09-12 07:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bobcat9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get married without his dad's consent...are you guys really young? By young I mean under 21? If so, I think you should wait it out. Marriage is a huge step and a big commitment, you have to be ready. It is not just about being so much in love with a person that you want to be with him forever. It's pretty much a job you have to work at to keep. If you're not young and you both know you're ready, then you should get married regardless of his dad being there or not. It would be his loss that he didn't show up. He can just stop with the attitude and rejoice in this joyous time. It is about you guys, not him.
2006-09-12 06:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are his objections? Sometimes a parent knows what is best for their child in these matters weather we like it or not. My parents saw right through my husband but I was blinded by love. They objected to the marriage based on several factors. 1) his prior divorces (there were 2) were both because of his temper. His family told me that they just wanted to cheat and I believed it because they both had been pr oven to be in other relationships prior to divorcing him. 2) Cultural differences, I am Italian American and he is Mexican. I did not realise that this would mean that no matter what he did his family would support his actions. If he cheated it must have been because I had not given him enough sex. If he had a huge porn collection and drank behind the when "Well, boys will be boys" If he did not want to work "Its your job to support him" The point is, What are you not looking at? Marriage is easy to get into and hard to get out of. If his parents object they will not make life easy and he will not be able to easily dismiss them. Does he favour their opinion over yours if so know that this will never change. Think very hard before you jump into this because you might be blinded by your love for him but as soon as the ink drys on the marriage licence you might be sorry and then you will be in a great deal of pain. Good luck.
2006-09-12 07:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lynnette G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can get married without his father's consent - tell him that this is what will be happening, and make it clear that you would both rather he gave his consent and was there but you will not start married life being held to ranson by anyone. Be firm but fair and make sure he understands that things will not stop just because he doesn't like the situation - he isn't the one getting married after all!!
2006-09-12 07:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you are too young is not the issue. Getting married is a BIG commitment. You need his Dad on your side, I'm speaking from experience, any conflict at the beginning of this romance will result in failure. Please resolve the bad feelings and try to compromise you will need this skill through out your married life. Be patient it will work out.
2006-09-12 07:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by sinkcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you isn't it your life and not his. Tell him you can make your own decisions but both of you would rather he be involved in your married life. Another question for you - is your fiancee a man or a boy that is going to let his family dictate to him for the rest of his life.
2006-09-12 07:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by cremcharl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need his say so its up to you and your partner when you get married take some control here. Who does he think he is ...if you and your partner love each other and want to get married then do it i would if i met the man of my dreamsjust go for it and deal with him after lifes too short for all this messing about.
2006-09-12 07:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just elope. I have the opposite problem everyone is too envolved. Is his problem with you or the idea of marrige. Take him out explain how us feel about each other and that he should be happy for uz. Then runaway n send him a postcard!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-12 07:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by Laura C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am 24, married for 4 years, we have been together for 8 years, and his dad and i NEVER got along. i do not even talk to him.
one thing i have learned though.....
even when you try to get along with them, it never works out like in the movies, you know ...like when you give them a chance, spend time together .. talk ..thats not the real world.
you do not need no body's consent... with love and if you know you belong together thats all that counts.
best wishes for both
2006-09-12 07:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋