He has a girl friend. I said to him I love him, but he say nothing and do everything as before.
I canot stop myself loving him. What should I do?
2006-09-11 20:58:59 · 18 answers · asked by loveforever 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm sure you have very strong feelings for this boy but it is important for your sanity to try and move on. If he is in a relationship with somebody then he is offlimits. There are many people out there and I'm sure that you can find a good rebound or fallback person to help you get over him.
2006-09-11 21:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will be unhappy if you pursue anyone who doesn't feel that way about you...he will just want to be friends and you will want more.
Go to some places to meet some gay friends and you will probably meet someone who also likes you in a sexual way...you can stay friends with the straight guy but he won't be interested in you unless he's bisexual...many people are of course a bit bisexual.
If you must get him into bed you could pounce when he's just broken up with a girlfriend, that's your only chance and though it might seem devious they say all's fair in love and war and so it is, however it will probably end your friendship and he'll go back to seeing girls quickly.
2006-09-11 21:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is saying that he wants to be friends with you despite you being gay. I wouldn't bring the subject up again with him. Start looking in greener pastures.
To love and to have that love unanswered, is one of the unfortunate issues that we all have to face at one time or another. It is also one area that gays and straights have in common.
Keep looking and you will find your prince - but don't expect him to ride up on a white steed.
2006-09-12 01:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by roqofages 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn that just because you love someone doesn't mean the other person is obliged to reciprocate. Best thing to do? Walk away.
If that not physically possible (classmate, neighbour... etc) find a distraction.
2006-09-11 21:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by trent0705 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to get over it eventually. You must understand that he won't ever feel the same way about you. Stuff like this is bound to happen, so it's not your fault. In the future however, I would be more hesitant to tell straight men that you love them, unless you mean it platonically of course.
2006-09-11 21:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Isaac 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You wrote; I said I love him and ...
He sounds like a pretty good friend to me! He is aware of your feelings towards him and yet he doesn't act against you b/c of them. As for what to do? Nothing. Keep him as a friend and learn from him what you are not learning from others. He just might be your kindred spirit, a life guide!
2006-09-11 21:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Eventually, the intensity of the love will fade. That's all you can do. Finding someone else to love helps.
2006-09-11 21:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sinai 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
loveforever,
I feel bad for you. You sound young and you are about to find out how much love can hurt. Remember that others have been there before, you are not alone.
2006-09-11 21:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep things as they are. He doesn't seem to mind being loved and may return the affection more openly as time goes by. Be patient, don't make him choose. One can enjoy both bananas and cherries without the tastes conflicting.
2006-09-11 21:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Keep away from him. Look for love/entertainment elsewhere. Let time heal your wound from unrequited love.
2006-09-11 22:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋