no matter how beautiful,how loving,how caring or sexy you are?they always tend to cheat on you.is there a solution to this or are men just natural cheats?i just need to know
2006-09-11 20:29:50 · 21 answers · asked by sweetheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-09-11 21:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by jookie70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not always...my father didn't and some FEW good men don't.......but men cheat most of the time maybe because how the way things are now today. People view sex and marriage as a commodity, as something not to be taken seriously nor to be taken by heart.
I hope this will help you understand, I found this on the net:
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... not just a feeling.
2006-09-11 20:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly men are natural cheats. Biology and nature can be blamed for part of this i don't think it gives a man the excuse to cheat on his wife though. Males are designed by nature to have sex with as many mates as possible to spread thier seed actually. While females are designed to find the best possible mate and mate with them. Men are more tempted to cheat due to this reasoning. I have been married for seven years and i have not cheated on my wife I will not say it will never happen cause anything is possible but i don't beleive it will. And all men do not cheat on thier wives it's a decision to cheat or to not. Men can control themselves no matter what lame bullsh*t story they feed thier wives.
2006-09-11 20:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by souless one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight up? Cause every married man needs a girlfriend. Y? Most of the time the g/f will do things to and for him the wife won't. Best way to keep him from cheating on you is to find him a girlfriend for you and him. That usually keeps him home.
2006-09-11 20:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by us2_4playtime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men cheat.
but men and women are different, and we should recognize that fact. men can truly cheat and it be based on some type of sexual attraction without any emotion attached. it could be about proving their manhood, which generally is what these things boil down to-- sometimes the man is feeling under-appreciated in the marriage, and a wink from some girl on the job and he feels validated and appreciated, and his manliness is awakened. he feels valued, or at least purposed, and therefore he pursues it.
it's not always about the relationship between the husband and wife, but it is the wife's responsibility to keep her husband feeling valued in their relationship-- as the opposite is true. guys are super-sensitive, but not as talky as women, and not as in tune with the reasons why they do what they do.
and it certainly doesn't matter what the wife looks like at all, it's not really about her physicality, as much as it's about the marriage and both partners not being validated as they expect.
2006-09-11 20:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by retro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are cheats... all men have the potential to cheat but not all do. I don't think it has to do with the women they're with, necessarily, but something to do with proving something to themselves. I have seen men cheat on the most beautiful women ever. I think it's just a male ego thing. Insecure men cheat.
2006-09-11 20:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the environment. If one is away from spouse, like working overseas, tendency is higher. Being alone, have a few drinks and swept off your feet. When wake up, what you know a partner besides you. Temptation is very strong. Need a very strong will power to overcome it. 9 out of 10 fall for it. Do you?
2006-09-11 20:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Whitesands 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats bullshit. I would never cheat on my girlfriend or wife. to clear any misconceptions, i would, presumably, have one or the other of which currently i have neither. At any rate i would never cheat on them. I think it is because the women marry the wrong type of guy. From my experiences in the past girls/women always tend to pick jackasses as b/f's and then always get hurt. They dont understand the one they should be dating/marrying is the one that they complain to (male of course, but whatever floats your boat) is the on e that will most likely never hurt them. Any way thanks for your ear and tolerance of my incoherent rambling!!
2006-09-11 20:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by roncho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t agree at all to your question or the context of it. Normal men by nature harbor a certain degree of desire, but a good number of them are discipline enough to avoid the complications that come with it. Maybe you are aggrieved by your own experience which I empathize. I hope you will be able to get over it soon and look at the bright side.
2006-09-11 21:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a man I have never cheated on my wife and never would.But my ex cheated on me and that is why I am divorced.but I am married again and in a happy loving realationship so for me to cheat that would not only hurt my wife but my kids to. SO NOT ALL MEN CHEAT
2006-09-11 20:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Steveoooooo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i got to say is you got yourself a major looser if he is not ready to settle with you and go out and get some *** from some ho you really do not need him to put you through all of that all i gotta say again is not all married men cheat mine doesn't and i know that for a fact all he does is go to work and come home to me the love of his life so if i found out he was cheating on me i would not take that shtuff if you say its okay he is gonna do it again so do what you want but just remember not all married men are jerks just yours or someone you know
2006-09-11 20:34:47 · answer #11 · answered by jnstoner420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋