we have been together for about 8 months. she is awesome but some things really irritate me. she isn't really comfortable with her body, she doesnt let me see her from behind. We dont do anything too out of the ordinary. I feel like our sexual relationship is limited due to her self concious and esteem isues. besides just talking about it, how can i get her to feel sexier and be more crazy and adventurous in the bedroom? How do i make her feel as sexy and beautiful as she is?
2006-09-11 20:27:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You did not say why she did not want to be seen from behind. Do she have a terrible scar from an accident, a bad tattoo, a pimply butt? Have sex by the light of one candle. when she gets use to that. sneak in 2 candles. And so forth until you build up to enough candles where she is seen but doesn't really notice. Try role play. get her a dominatrix outfit with garters, stilettos and hand cuffs. Let her be in a power position she might get a charge from it, and you can try other scenarios. Start the fore play AT BREAKFAST. Kiss her neck. Tell her that you love her. Put a single rose on her car dash in the morning. Make her think sex = you all day long. try that.
2006-09-11 21:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly that. You could suggest some counseling if she really has self-esteem issues (outside of the bedroom). Some people just aren't ever going to be crazy and adventurous in the bedroom, though.
2006-09-12 03:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have only been together 8 months i am sure that she will get more comfortable with you after a while. but make sure u give her plenty of compliments and tell her shes beautiful every day.
or write her a note. telling her about hows shes beautiful and what u love about her and what you think is so beautiful about her.
and alot of ppl have insecuritys about themselves. and if she dont like it then she thinks that you arent going to like it either.
but u have to let her kno that it dont matter and that you love everything about her. and that will give her some confidence.
Good luck
2006-09-12 03:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by GhOsTy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that you can do is tell her how hot you think she is. Tell her you think she has a sexy butt. Tell her that you really want to have sex in certain positions because you think she's gorgeous... and then make sure to compliment her on her body and how hot she looks when she's naked and you've got her in the positions that show the areas that she's insecure about. She needs lots of reassurance and your patience.
2006-09-12 03:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds just like me!
This might sound really odd but just spend time together in a sexual atmosphere and just take notice of her insecurities and work on them when she isn't wearing lots of clothes.
Another thing... spend time together naked, she'll be really nervous and argue and probably refuse but it worked for me! she is probably just worried about disappointing you, the minds of females, don't attempt to understand them.
She'll come around, just keep the lovin and affection coming. She'll appreciate it.
2006-09-12 03:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by EcXeSSive ConSUmptiON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER TELL HER TELL HER!!!!!!! You can never tell her she is too beautiful......explain to her that you love the way she looks and she is just what you want......My fiance and I had the same problem it still gets to me sometimes.....I am very self concious about my body......but he thinks I am beautiful and the old saying is true "if you hear it enough you tend to believe it" so keep on telling her what she means to you....she'll Gradually open up more...I have.....I really hope this helps
2006-09-12 03:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. Don't pressue her. Take baby steps. If, after a long time there's no progress, you'll have to either live with it or dump her.
There's a possibility that it stems from a molestation that took place when she was younger. Again, show a lot of patience.
2006-09-12 03:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way: keep saying it to her, keep saying it to her, keep saying it to her. Always say no one is more beautiful than she is. Try with the lights turned off for a while. Maybe some wine will help also. Always remember to reward her in a special way each time she opens more.
2006-09-12 03:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you girlfriend has a very low self- esteem .If she can't accept the way she is then no one will, you can try by showing her how much you love and that you love her regardless of the way she looks
2006-09-12 03:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by pope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emphasize on things that u like about her ... hair , nose, behind toes.... there is a lot of things to like and keep it on the loop every day 1000 times and she'll come around
2006-09-12 03:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by leed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋