Who's supposed to make the call?

Question

Advice time! If the husband is going to be late home from work, should he call his wife to let her know - or is she supposed to call him to make sure he's going to be on time? I know, I know, but this really came up!

Answer 1

he should call of course and it doesn't have to do with him being a man - if there is a deviation in daily routine, the person who is responsible for that should inform their spouse

Answer 2

Hmmmm...personally I feel he should be the one to call u ahead of time to let u know he's going to be late. BUT...there are instances when something will just "come up" all of a sudden and he may not be in a position to call, especially if he doesn't have a cell phone.

The reason I said this is that there were times when my husband couldn't call me when something came up because the matter was very urgent and needed his immediate attention...and where he works, sometimes his cell would not transmit a signal and he had no access to a regular phone. After a couple of hrs of him not calling, I would usually call him instead but I can't get thru cause his phone has no signal.

So with that said, I think HE should call but if he doesn't call after a certain time has passed, YOU should because u never know if something might have happened.

Answer 3

Depends on what you mean by "late" — 20 minutes, or two hours? And it depends on whether you'd previously agreed on a specific time for dinner or whatever. If you agreed on 6 p.m. for a special supper and he's going to be more than 5 minutes late, he should call. But in everyday life, you have to have flexibility. It's reality that people get lost in a pile of work, get stuck in traffic jams, receive unexpected phone calls, get trapped by yappy co-workers who won't take a breath during which you might excuse yourself, etc.

My hubby and I have a "window" of normal get-home time. It's about 4:30 to 6:30. If either of us will be later than 6:30, the one who is late calls with an explanation/ETA. However, if, for example, I get home at 5:15 and am starving and he's not there yet, it's my issue and I call to check his status.

It's different for every couple. The key is to negotiate a policy beforehand so each person knows what's expected of him/her.

Answer 4

It would be kind if the husband will let the wife know if he is going to be late, but most husbands forget, so a friendly reminder on the cell will be sufficient.

Answer 5

It is his direct responsibility to make a call and let you know that he will be home late. It would be a simple courtesy and a good manner to prevent you from any unnecessary worryings.

Answer 6

You should talk about this to him but it is only manners for the late person to call the on time person...but sometimes ppl just get sidetracked so if he was running late no harm checking.

Answer 7

the husband is suppose to call u. if hes like maybe 15 minutes late, call him. dont be narrow minded like some people, doesnt automatically mean hes cheating. Something might have happened (and i dont mean to sound pessimistic neither).

Answer 8

If he knows he will be late then it is his responsibility to call. What sense does it make for her to call everyday..."Honey, will you be home at the regular time tonight?" That doesn't make sense so he should call. Just like kids, if they are expected to be home at 7pm and they will be late, they should call....it's common courtesy!

Answer 9

normal that he should call you that you that he is going to be late. unless that he have a demaining job and might beside track then you should call.
other thing is there no wrong or right way. if you feel like that you need to know then just do it.

Answer 10

the husband should call but, personally i think it does not matter if he calls or u call, i, on my part, on most days is neck deep in work, that often can't find time to call