desperately sad....?

Question

just recently married and my husband works in another country. now he is dumping me =( i know i have faults and long diatance relationship is hard. im feeling very sad and dont know what to do now, any advice?

he is not a military man, and we met on internet and got married. problem as he said is, i cant support him.
i said sorry but he is not listening to me.

Answer 1

Get busy in something that is interesting to you.You will either forget him or find a new one.

Answer 2

I posted a reply to this, then read your second note.

You met on the internet and then married? If you had your whole relationship on the internet and then got married, without spending several months together in between, then no wonder it didn't work.

The internet is a wonderful way of meeting people, but you should NEVER base any decisions about relationships or marriage on internet chats. You can never judge a person accurately by what they say on the internet. If you think you like (or love) someone on the internet, then you must still make sure you spend several weeks or months dating each other, before you make any commitment.

If you rushed into this, then I'm afraid you only have yourself to blame, and I hope you'll learn from this experience. Never get your hopes up about someone you meet on the net - arrange to meet him sooner rather than later, and don't rush any decision.

In any case, any man who expects YOU to support HIM is not worth having. A modern marriage is about equal partners, not one person living off another.

Answer 3

Dumping you so fast ? But why....am sure there's a reason.....Are you having an affair ?

You're not suppose to support him......he's nuts. The problem both of you never discuss further on the future...did both of you make any plan before the marriage.......

Anyway it's better now than later...at least there's no kid involve yet.....if you think it's not workable anymore...move on with your life...am sure you'll find a better man soon....but please don't make the same mistake....married just for the sake of marrying without thinking what the future will be.......You have to be smart too..make sure the man has a permanent good job & not depending on to you later on....at least he got a decent place to stay & able to have responsibility as a good husband & father to your children later on......Be smart & NOW be happy at least you know that he's a Failure......MOVE ON & GBU

Answer 4

This is a difficult one. However, I must ask you, do you know anything about praying? Some things only God alone can do and that sound like a job for GOD. If you need more help and some one to talk to you can contact 917-842-4919. But I do hope that you can work things out with your husband. It seems, despite everything that you love your husband and want your marriage to work. I guess we need to be humble at times and ask for forgiveness. If you have a church or a counselor, that's a start. Be bless.

Answer 5

just recently married and he is dumping you? Hmmmm sounds fishy to me. I think he married you just for the heck of it and fly off to another country where he always have a wife or a hot gf.

what to do? stop being hysterical, be calm, give urself time and talk to him about what he wants. If he says he is really dumping you, then he is not worth the guy u thought u want to spend ur life with. move on and get someone who will love u more than u love him. thats the right thing to do.

Answer 6

Is he dumping you because of the distance, or because you've grown apart? I think that distance can be solved by one person taking a leap of faith. The second reason would need two people willing to work it out.

I'm guessing manybe you two rushed into marriage, now he's off with his military buddies, going out to bars, seeing them enjoy the single life, and he isn't as ready to settle down as he thought he was.

If that's the case, not much can be done. Move on and find something you like to do to get your life back in order. Good luck. :)

Answer 7

That reminds me of a guy named Lucky.

Lucky was married to a beautiful girl. He went to war in Vietnam, and lost a leg. On the boat ride home, the ship got hit, and he lost his other leg to a shark. When he got home, his wife left him for another guy.

At least you've still got your legs.

Seriously, you will probably be sad no matter what you do. It sounds like you have good reason. But time will make it better. Try to focus on the things that could be going wrong in your life but haven't. Learn guitar. Pray.

Answer 8

Hurm, im not there to comfort u, maybe im jus a useless guy whos not very successful in my relationship s well. But however, i live n learn. U shud do dat too. Life is a complicated long lesson, where we do mistakes, but we live n learn.. At least now u know, that sum guy cant stay in a long distance relationship. N neve let yer love one far, unless ur sure they wud come back. Dont blame yerself. Great people fall too, but wat make them great is, they can git up afta the hardest fall. Life goes on, dun think ovit too much, instead, do sumthin to get yer mind off it.. N.., dun listen to love songs, o sad songs. Let listen to Alanis Morrisette, 'I neve really luv u anyway'.. U gota hate em fo doin dat, not to feel sad, but mad..Hes a son of a *****, go straita hell!! U dun love em!!

Answer 9

Gather up some of your gal friends, go out for drinks and bring home a stud. I know, sounds cheap. But hey, most of us have done it once (some more than others). It's a quick fix that will send you down the path of recovery.

If that doesn't work, shoot him.

Answer 10

I would suggest talking it over with your husband, and if he wont talk to you, you can always have a bash party while eating icecream and talk it over with your close friends.

Stay strong, you can and will find something better... especially if he is going to let miles get in between you two, and keep you apart.