my wife and i were married for almost 16 years now and i'm finding ways add more fun to our sexual life. she's quite conservative and disagrees when i first suggested to her the idea.
she still enjoys sex but not as much as before.
2006-09-11 19:28:13 · 15 answers · asked by tomc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say this about any sex toy: If your partner doesn't want to use it, then you shouldn't make them. If your wife doesn't enjoy the idea of a vibrator then it's a lost cause...
2006-09-11 19:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Startoshadows 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go quietly and buy one that is for massaging and fairly simple looking. Start by having a candle light dinner and then a long bubblebath. While she is in the bath take the vibrator and start using it on the back of her neck and shoulders. Then dry her off and rub baby oil or warming lotion over her whole body. Slowly start running it over her back and shoulders while she lays on her stomach. Do not put it near her private parts. along the back of the neck, close to the ears, and up and down her legs moving close to inner thighs. When she begins to get turned on and beginning to try new ways to include it into your lovemaking but not to violate her if and until she is ready and acceptable to the idea. Or you can have her massage your back with it and go from there. Good luck. Have fun.
2006-09-11 20:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know just how conservative she is when it comes to sex. But if she is where she doesn't like vibrators, chance is, she doesn't like anything except sticking it in and out. You could take a chance on trying in the heat of the moment using it on her. Normally in the heat of the moment of sexual peak, she might see what she was missing out on and hopefully the floodgates will open, and you will have a vibrator loving wife in the bedroom! If not sorry to hear she isn't wanting to indulge on your sexual escapades, there are far worse ideas you could have presented her besides a vibrator, a vibrator used for HER extra pleasure. Good luck!
2006-09-11 19:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Fallen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would like to congratulate you on your 16 years! I'm proud of you two going long and keeping strong! That is great that you want to spice up the sex, it aids in a healthy relationship.
As for the vibrator...
I guarantee your wife will love it! Purchase one...they are many to choose from but my personal favorite is the 'Silent Rocket' mainly for clitoral stimulation.
Since she is reserved and is reluctant to try it, I'd start off slow. If you drink, have a couple glasses of wine and relax her. Start off with some passionate foreplay and then blindfold her. Keep rubbing, touching, licking, and sucking. Start playing with her kitty and gradually add the aid of the vibrator. At first she might be like "WTF?!" but I promise that will be a 5 second reaction and she will be begging for more. Good luck!
2006-09-11 19:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...here you go, try this....buy a tiny personal travel massager at a department store...something that looks nothing like a vibrator, nor was it bought in a disagreeable store. Use it on her back, shoulders, everywhere but where you want to for the first few times, then slowly work into massaging her where you want to, but only if she seems to be interested. Forcing something on her that she dosen't want to might turn her off to it forever. Take your time, and be slow with it. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 19:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by The Nag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised you have to convince her, most of the time it's women trying to convince the men! but if she is uncomfortable about the idea don't force it...maybe mention it another time. Ask her why she feels this way and if anything would make her more comfortable with the idea.
2006-09-11 19:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her one. Not too outrageous, since she is conservative. Or you could take her shopping & say something like "look at that."
Just remember, ANYTHING you say to a woman could be misinterpreted. And cause an arguement. Tread slowly...& good luck.
2006-09-11 19:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time when you make love, start vibrating.
Sounds like a compromise to me.
2006-09-11 19:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ilooklikemyavatar..exactly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy one and ask that she allow you to try it with her...make sure she knows you will stop if she doesn't like it. What feels good to some people doesn't necessarily feel good to others
2006-09-11 19:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just buy one and after a few drinks in the middle of going at it pull it out and use it on her . shell love it
2006-09-11 19:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋