i really need some help4 my problem...i was a person who considered frnds as everything..i give them prime importance.my frnd had a brek-up wid her bf n both were very gud frnds of mine..their relationship ws known to their parents too due to which the guy was beaten up by the gal's parents..n so the boy ws about to file a case against them with me as a very gud witness coz i ws d one who was always wid them n who knows the whole prb.very well...bt i am a best frnd of the gal.also the guy was right in this matter...if i go against the gal she wud spill out all my secrets n if i go against the guy that means i am supporting the evilwhat shall i do???also my dad has got to know about it n he is telling me not to have any relation wid these kind of peopl..(he is too orthodox n he has seen them doing *** )listening to this the guy got so angry that he started spreading all types of nonsense about me which is just unbearable.what shall i do??now i have completely lost faith in friendship..
2006-09-11 18:29:41 · 11 answers · asked by vanita 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Normally I would say go and help the guy, as it appears that he was attacked unprovoked and you were a witness to that. However there are a few things you need to consider. Were you actually there when the incident happened or are you only going off information that was later given to you? Also, these 'friends' of yours why are they expecting you to get involved, it's their argument and therefore for them to sort out. You shouldn't need to be involved if you are their friend and have got such split loyalties. Also, your dad has a point, if you are hanging around with people who can only solve their difference through violence and the courts are they really people you want to get involved with? What's next manslaughter or murder? You need to be careful who you choose as friends and what sort of an effect being their friend is going to have on your quality of life. The short of it all is think carefully before you value 'friendship' over doing what is right for you. People say stuff about other people all the time, so let them do their worst if doing what is right offends either one of them in anyway. They are being selfish by refusing o consider your feelings so give them a taste of their own medicine and be selfish for you.
2006-09-11 19:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends are important but sometimes you have to consider whether or not your friendship is important to them.
If this is what it comes down to, their friendship isn't worth it. I guess you should just get ready for whatever your friends throw at you. If she spills your secrets, get ready for the consequences. If he's spreading lies about you, than prepare for that too. Do what's right and be the witness to his case, too.
It's hard but there's only one option: The Now. There's no later. Deal with everything.
2006-09-12 02:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy...however am sure you know who is right & who is wrong....Keep away from all of them & if you're ask to be the witness then you'll have no choice....what to do if your gal friend will spill out you're secrets...that's the conciquence......just be ready...
One way just ignore & said you're not involve with any of them & both of them are mad....& ignore all their saying & be positive on yourself . Do inform both of them , that you do not want to have nothing to do with them anymore ...untill the case is settle & close....either thy're on or off...as simple as that....
It's better now than later.....just be yourself & at least you know that she's not that perfect....there's still many good people out there.....this is only a test for you....don't take it too hard....GBU
2006-09-12 02:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
FRIENDS: well who did the wrong thing? If one did the crime then the' ll be doing the time then you'll still have the one best friend, but on the other hand if both did then yea move on to better friends.... GOOD LUCK..
2006-09-12 01:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by mike_m50501 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File a restraining order against this guy. Don't testify, refuse.
If forced, via subpoena, then you have no choice.
But to protect yourself, you need to file a cease and desist order against the guy to make him stop spreading lies about you.
2006-09-12 02:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3y3 w99d 1/2 2 say tat u w1ll B f1n3.
2006-09-12 04:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by closetcoon_fan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really wanted to try and help.. but with all the shorthand, and abbreviations, and the "wid" "n" "ws" i have no idea what your problem even is. and i have no patience to decode it. i'm sorry. and good luck with your situation. hopefully someone else can help.
2006-09-12 01:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont always use short hand it was kinda confusing...but just go the one that feels right whats more important to you justice or friendship?
2006-09-12 01:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go with what's going to be the easiest for you to live with in the future.
2006-09-12 01:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well give them time and things will work themselves out.
cinderellamirage
2006-09-12 23:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋