I broke up with my ex at the beginning of this year. Our relationship was getting real bad, all we did was fight, he cheated on me, etc etc, so I ended it. It was a really bad breakup, but one of the best things I've ever done.
Anyway, he got a girlfriend a week after I dumped him. He's still with her. I started dating this guy a few months ago, which has been going great. I really never thought I'd be happy in a relationship again, but with him I am. Words can't even describe how I feel about him.
My ex and I have tried to be friends on and off since our breakup. I'm over him now (and have been for a while). Whenever he wants to chat about his life, he acts fine, but if I tell him anything about my life or even call him to ask for something like driving directions, he acts like a huge jerk. When he does that, I just figure it's better off not to bother with him, but then a week later he's calling and texting me again!
What's the deal?
2006-09-11 18:19:43 · 14 answers · asked by Me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow honestly that sounds scarily similar to my ex situation. In my situation ive found that he calls me when he needs to talk about something serious or wants advice, because he knows i know him. I think its hard when you break up with someone because they were your best friend, they pretty much knew you better than anyone else, and you came to them and they came to you with concerns or problems. Its hard to replace that. I'm sure his new girlfriend doesnt know him like you do, and doesnt know his history, so it would be hard for him to explain to her everything that you already know. Him calling you when he needs you to talk to you about things is downright selfish because he treats you like **** when YOU need him. I don't want to say that our situations are completely similar, but I know in my case, it has been best for me to stop speaking to my ex completely. Then he can't upset you. Find comfort in your friends and family and your new boy. Try to avoid calling your ex as much as possible even though you still often think of him when you need advice or help. The more you force yourself to ask someone else, or go to someone else with problems or concerns, the less and less you will think about your ex. Hope that helps :)
2006-09-11 18:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answer should be clear to you by now. He is a jerk...that's why you left him in the first place. Trying to have him for a friend unfortunately, is not a good move. First of all he is not truly interested in being your friend. He just want to stay in your life (and no telling what else). Separate yourself completely away from him...at least for now. Eventually he will show you his intentions are trouble. Maybe sometimes later...way later he might develop the maturity to be a true friend...but I doubt it.
2006-09-11 18:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous that you have found something that makes you happy. You are with another guy and he proably doesn't want you to be with him. Have you ever thought that he might not be over you. The road does run 2 ways. Think about it and maybe ask him.
2006-09-11 19:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There a lot of people in the world that don't want someone, but they don't want anyone else to want them either.
He probably realizes your a good person, and not right for him. I am guessing that he enjoyed the fact that you were pineing for him. Now your attention is elsewhere, and he does not like it.
The best thing to do is to either tell him straight out that you don't appreicate his actions or just stop communication with the man.
2006-09-11 18:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by rebeccalynn_dj 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know what, since you are completely over, you should quit calling him and when he calls or text you, then you should just act like a jerk and show him how it feels.
2006-09-11 18:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Just_Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be over him, but he isn't over you yet. He wants to get on with his life, but whenever the thought of you with someone else comes in the picture, he simply can't handle it and acts the way he does. give him time to heal, and grow up. then you can be friends.
2006-09-11 19:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't treat you like a friend, then move on. You don't need this jerk as a friend. You said you have gotten over him, then realy get over him. Leave him out of your life.
2006-09-11 18:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kojak 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's why they call it the past=there is no future in it, unless your really lucky. sounds like to me, your holding on.
2006-09-11 18:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still cares for u he's just bein an *** right now my ex did this so much u should not talk to him as much only when u want to talk not when he wants to talk
2006-09-11 18:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by Theresa J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think hes just a jerkl
2006-09-11 18:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋