there is a guy i know, he tells me he loves me and acts like i'm the most important person in the world, but when he is with his friends or walks past me, i hardly get a hi out of him. when he is with me i feel that he does love me, but i'm afraid to get close to him, i don't wanna get hurt, and him ignoring me only makes it worse. people tell me that i'm pretty, but i have low self esteem.
people like me but never take me seriously.
2006-09-11 18:13:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Many men know what a woman wants to hear. Men who will use you will use that against you.
While people can't be as affectionate in public as they are when they're alone, there shouldn't be large differences. If he seems to be a different person around you and around other people, then he's being deceptive at some point.
So either he's intentionally deceiving you, or he's a poser. Which means he doesn't truly know himself. And if you don't know yourself, you can't love someone else.
That's just the fact of it.
If you're looking for a more attentive man, be honest with yourself about that. You deserve it.
Forget this guy, and start looking for someone who (though mabie he doesn't know the lines to say) has more integrity.
At your age, you probably won't be dating the person you'll marry. But your experiences now, and what you learn from them, will teach you what you need to know to be married one day.
The man who will really love you will be your best friend, and you'll be his, and he won't ever act differently around his friends, because you'll be one of them.
2006-09-12 11:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your attitude, not who you are, don't worry bout a thing, listen to your instincts. They are really 89% right of the time. So go on and take a chance for once. You only have one life so don't waste your lust. And this "guy" it looks to me that he's either afraid to like you or kind of loves you, yet wants to be your friend. But love isn't an appropiate way by asking questions, love is inside you, and what you think is what you want to think. Yes, I'm studying psychology if its noticable. Member, study your insticts.
2006-09-12 01:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by imreallymean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay...this is a hard one! its kind of like he loves you when you 2 are together but when everyone else is around he doesn't! honestly that kind of relationship cannot work! Its not a matter of if he loves you or not...its how he shows it! Acting like he does only half of the time in unexceptable! Love is unconditional so he just needs to act one way all of the time so you are not left hanging an waiting! and dont not let yourself fall in love! its better to experience it than to never experience it at all
2006-09-12 01:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The both of you are too young to really KNOW what love is. You like being together, perod. He doesn't reconigze you when he's with his friends because he is an immature boy...they ALL act like that. Wait until you are older and more mature before you start telling each other you love each other.
2006-09-12 03:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, first of all stand tall! Why not try a different approach, maybe not being so availiable when he wants to be with ya (even if it kills ya). Why not talk to his friends and be on the verge of flirting but to much make sure it's not obvious. Make sure other people are falling over each other to speak to you. If people tell you your pretty Believe them. Spice up your hair, make up, clothes, and shoes that always give you confidence! Believe in YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-12 01:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by lilAudrey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you don't ignore ( the one you love ) especially if you're with your friends. He should want his friends to know the one he has feelings for and be proud to have her by his side.
Second, Go with your gut feeling. If you think somethings up then it probably is. Don't second guess yourself.
2006-09-12 01:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by Justa_Honay_Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You attract what you project in life.
You attract what you THINK you deserve, not what you ACTUALLY DO deserve.
Even if you are not confident, fake it, and you'll attract confident people who will support you and make feel loved. Break the cycle, take a chance and smile.....
2006-09-12 01:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself sweety!!! If this guy ignores you around his friends...GET RID OF HIM!! It's a BAD sign. YOU are in control of your relationships. If you let a guy treat you with disrespect, HE WILL!!!!! YOU teach people how to treat you. Teach them well!
2006-09-12 01:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so your boy prolly does like you. i cant say he loves you for sure bc i dont know him. however. boys are like that when they are around their friends, its frustrating but its the way they are. they dont want to seem uncool with their friends. and being all lovey and stuff would make them seem "whipped" it is stupid i know but its the way males are. hope i helped hun
2006-09-12 01:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is hard to say if he does love you or doesn't...Maybe he doesn't want to show it in front of his friends. I think you should ask him directly and solve this with him....
2006-09-12 02:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Crogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋