My son is 21 yrs old and just graduated from high school last year. He works full time at WalMart and goes to college on the weekends. He has been pretty responsible about paying his bills, so when he paid late, I didnt get to pushy about it. He handed me $300 bucks tonite and I stuffed it in my checkbook. I am thinking about putting it in a secret jar in case he needs money or may be even put it away as a gift if he ever gets married, he can have all this money back and whatever else he gives me in the future.
I raised him by myself and I am so totally proud of him. I dont want to be one of those weird mothers who cannot cut the apron strings though. Would you save the money for him or spend it on whatever you feel like? I pay his 1983 truck insurance monthly and he was re imbursing me.
2006-09-11 17:47:59 · 19 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also, he doesnt even have a girlfriend yet. He is ver quiet. Not a partier. Just basically tinkers with this junk truck he bought. He actually loves to work at Walmart. He only spends money on his junk truck.
2006-09-11 18:04:43 · update #1
We were dirt poor when he was a little boy and actually lived in welfare housing. I used to have to get him up at 4 am to go to the sitter ( he hated her ) She took the breakfast I sent for him and his sister and wouldnt let them eat it because I didnt send enough for all the kids she babysat for. What a crock! They are all still on welfare hill and we are so far outa there.
I just dont want to be over protective and supid about it. I think he should learn responsible bill paying now. I dont plan to tell him I am hoarding his money because he may decide its not that important to pay me.
2006-09-11 18:11:09 · update #2
yes...
put it in a CD or something that will gain interest....
you can do that every time he gives you $$$
roll the CD's over as they mature
then when he gets married maybe you'll have enough to give him and his wife a little boost in their new life together...
if you do it right it could be enough for a small down payment on a house or maybe some furniture....
2006-09-11 17:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by American Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on whether or not you need the money. If you don't have anything that needs to be paid with that money, then by all means, put it away, for either yourself or your son. It is nice that you will help him out and also a very good lesson that you make him pay back his bills. The fact that you are not just telling him to keep the money means that you are teaching him to value it and you (so he appreciates what you do for him but knows he is not getting a "free ride"). I don't think you "owe" it to him, as he IS paying you back it is your money, but as your money you are able to decide what to do with it. I wouldn't tell him that it's the same money you saved for him if you give it back as a gift (because he will most likely tell you that you don't need to do that and keep it for yourself, etc...). I would just tell him that you are very proud of him for being such a responsible person!
2006-09-11 17:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to pat you on the back if I could. That is one of the most thoughtful things I have heard from a mom in a long time. I m a mother myself of 4 and I also look after my elderly mom and you don't hear or see many parents like you anymore. I would say that if you do decide to put it away for him that would be a wonderful gift and would probably mean the world to him if and when he ever did need it.
2006-09-11 17:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Automec R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save half of any monies given by your son and if you can afford it , put it away for him. However , since you raised him with responsibility as the requisite, don't tell him.
It's important that he takes his life seriously and you not hinder what you responsibly as a parent achieved. Many young people today are responsible and many aren't. So take half for yourself and the other half for him. That way , you aren't out and neither is he when it comes to that rainy day.
It's so nice of you as a Mother to want too continue with him foremost in your world.
2006-09-11 18:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Darknight469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I should say that you should be proud of your self.You have a wonderful son that cares about you so much.He is giving you back the respect that you have given him for 21years.As for the $300 you should do what is best with it.Do the right thing with it and keep that bound between you and your son.
2006-09-11 18:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by KEVIN K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appropriate, i won't be in a position to write with my left hand in any respect! yet I do fairly some issues with my left hand, curiously i'm left hand eye co-ordinated. Or appropriate, whichever is the choice of what appropriate handers ought to be! I open doorways, carry luggage and do maximum stuff with my left hand.
2016-10-14 22:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by shade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just sound like a loving mom. And as long as he's not taking advantage to you,I don't see the harm in saving the money for him :)
2006-09-11 17:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a good son for paying back! my grandmother once saved every penny i gave her and gave it back to me when i started university. i ended up buying something for her with it.
but what im trying to say is that if you can afford to put it aside, do it. He may really need it one day. he sounds like a great son.
2006-09-11 17:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep to the agreement. If you feel like saving money for him - do it, but don't tie it to 'remember that $300 bucks you always gave me'...
2006-09-11 17:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by Russ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAVE IT!!! He will need it down the road. You are doing the right thing. It is a process- soon he will learn to find the right woman to pay his bills for him!!! (IM NOT PLAYING)
2006-09-11 17:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mike S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋