Ok...ever since my wife and I were dating, she admitted thinking about, and I have asked about, what it would be like for her to be with a black guy.
8 years later - we still realize its our number 1 fantasy.
We want to do it - we of course, are worried.
Please dont bash us for allowing another guy into our marriage - we are adults, and again - have been talking about this for years.
If we are secure enough - and its been a dream for us for her to be with a black guy - should we?
Has any other couples indulged in something like this?
Good things about it/ bad things about it?
We are looking for honest answers...
Thanks.
2006-09-11 17:42:47 · 24 answers · asked by Steve and Sue D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
fyi...I woud not be a participant....its just something for HER.....and - a dream for me to "see" them only.
Thanks again
2006-09-11 17:48:39 · update #1
It is a common fantasy so common there are several internet groups on the subject... Do a search and you will soon find several groups around the country who enjoy, talk, about and indulge in this particular fantasy...
Before you two act and take it from fantasy to reality set a specific set of guidelines and such so that it is completely understood and completely hashed out honestly before you take a misstep...
Good Luck
2006-09-11 17:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Married Couple Fantasy
2016-12-17 04:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If indeed has been a dream of BOTH of yours, then sure why not. However, if it is only a dream of HERS then you could easiy get jellous that you are ACTUALLY SHARING HER with another man. I honstely think that sense you are married and love each other, why should another man even matter? Sense you two are devoted to each other, I don't think her having an affair with you participating is a good thing. I am in a very close relationship. I love him so much, and will be engaged sooner than later. I believe that if you have a great relationship, the two of you is enough. And in fact you only want it to be the two of you, if you senserly love each other!! Think about that. It could mess up or marrage. Stay connected with each other, you guys are married, let each other full fill the fantasies, not an outside partner. If she wanted a black guy, she should have married one, or done it with one before you two tied the knot, too bad for her, she bettter get over it, for real.
2006-09-11 17:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by Green Tea Happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One a guy is a guy, so he would probably feel like, a guy.
You don't want to really get personal with the person, because then that can build feelings. You want to try and keep it as just to sex as possible. You also have to make sure you are comepletly secure, because if there is any hint of doubt, it can eat away at you. Then you have to hope they're not a better lover, because sometimes if a partner gets a tastes of something better, they want more. I know a few who have broken up, for the quest of better. So that can hurt the trust between you. I also know a couple who had the threesome, and because of his wanting to do it again and again, broke the relationship up, because it exceled her comfort zone.
Otherwise, it can be a fun experience.
2006-09-11 17:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nox 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been told several times that when you allow a 'third' into the bedroom (Controlled, uncontrolled, black,white, purple, etc) that something is simply lost. I have fantasies myself and would love to explore them with my wife, but the risk is not even CLOSE to the potential reward. I have a wonderful wife and kids that I love and my answer (no judgement here - just my straight shot) is Shakespeare.
'What win I if I gain the thing I seek?
A dream, a breath, a froth of fleeting joy.
Who buys a minute's mirth to wail a week?
Or sells eternity to get a toy?
For one sweet grape who will the vine destroy?
Or what fond beggar, but to touch the crown,
Would with the sceptre straight be strucken down?
Good Luck
2006-09-11 17:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Russ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm concerned like a few of the others. Maybe a white guy but not a black guy because the old saying is true " Once you go black you will NEVER go back" Trust me i know from evperience. Once she gets a little she is gonna want more and more and then some and she is gonna end up leaving you and she will get her a black man permantely.
2006-09-11 18:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by short&sweet05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, me and my ex fantasized about a 3some. done it, was fun, no one get hurted or jealousy. but hey, i think the image of that two persons last forever in my head. not so good when we had a fight or upsetted each other We broke up (nothing to do with the few times 3some). Now i'm with my current, fantasizing again about it again. But decide not to. sometimes, you are an adult, you love each other and the sex when love involved could be amazing, so amazing you want to take it to the next level. It's absolutely understandable. But you never sure how you gonna handle it afterward.
2006-09-11 17:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by hoang anh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 03:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing it might be fun but bad thing they say once you go black you never go back lol just a little joke but i don't understand the concept of having another man in a relationship it is never a good idea trust me i have seen many women leave their husbands for other men in the name of better sex you are opening a can of worms be careful.
2006-09-11 17:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Eisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong till you have only fantasy , it is strange to see ones wife sleeping with other person while husband is there ,as a observer , very funny .
If you both are bold enough to explore & enjoy adventure , do go ahead . Good luck .
2006-09-11 17:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋