i have been with my husband for 5 yrs.now we seem distant. i am no longer atracted to him.i mean i love him but not that way.we have 3 kids togeather.and i do not know what to do should i stay or should i go?
2006-09-11 17:14:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well that's up to you but from what I am hearing is that you are giving up way to easy! Have you talked to him about this? Have you tried to "re-connect"? Have you tried spicing things up?
Plus you have to think about your kids! If you guys are constantly fighting and can't get along its not healthy for the kids. But at the same time its really hard on kids when parents split up.
If you are really committed to your relationship and your family then you really need to try to work things out. Don't just give up because you are "bored" with him...maybe try therapy!
2006-09-11 17:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by freaking_airhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a licensed and reputable counselor, NOW. We went thru this at 10 yr. Counselor was amazing. The fire re-ignited and blazed again. We just celebrated 40th anniv. Also, you have to get away from the kids, for an evening, night, or weekend. Sometimes we hired the neighbor girl to babysit while we "ran errands," and the car never left the garage hehehe. Just an hour away from the kids, having fun together. And laugh together. For us, laughter has always been the best aphrodisiac.
2006-09-12 00:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and your love your family, you need to work at this honey. People grow apart if they aren't doing things together. It's important to know that what it took to get him in the first place is also what it takes to keep him. So pretty yourself up, go out on a date, flirt a little and re-invent the relationship. Remind yourself of all those reasons you fell in love with him in the first place. Pretty soon, the distance will fade. I've been married a long time and every once in awhile, I get this way too, so I go right back to basics and it works for us.
2006-09-12 00:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should see a marriage/family counsellor as soon as you can. Find out the reasons why you feel that way, see if anything can be done to save the marriage and the happiness of 3 kids. Good luck!
2006-09-12 01:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by Peter_F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to add some spice to your life, don't give up until you have tried everything. You have devoted 5 years and 3 kids that's a lot to let go. Why not try to fall back in love. Remember those days when you first fell in love.
2006-09-12 00:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by allycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that your marriage is in a rut..Take some one on one time with each other and try and find what it was that made you fall in love with each other. Don't give up.
2006-09-12 00:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always better to talk with your husband and really find out what happened that you don't have any desire for him. sometimes you need to reestablish your connection based on new ideas. Try to talk.
2006-09-12 00:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by herethere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to him, and you want to remain with him. I suggest you two talk to each other, or seek counceling.
2006-09-12 00:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kojak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go meet some scum bag that doesnt work and who is mean to you and leave your kids and husband for him then you will be happy
2006-09-12 00:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stay for another year and then decide....
2006-09-12 00:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋