I have jealousy/security/selfesteem issues. I'm 22 and I go to the gym every day (sometimes twice on my days off work), I buy the latest clothing, I have facials, I get my nails & hair done reguarly. I feel like i'm in competition with every female out there.
My ex (of 8months) who I miss & think of everyday :(.. broke up with me because i was 'too possessive'. Which i know i am but i can't help it. Whenever i see him talk or even look at a female i fly out in a jealous rage. Well maybe not a rage as such, but i get really annoyed. I know there are heaps other better looking females than me..I spend at least 2 hours in the morning to get ready for work..I feel like im obssessed because I know that looks fade. What am I going to do when I turn 40..I really don't know.. Can u give me a bit of advice.
2006-09-11 16:46:08 · 8 answers · asked by Brooke K 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
you are way into yourself,you are a borderline narcissist,first of all you have to realize the world does not revolve around you.Keeping a healthy relationship takes more then looks it takes communication,understanding and even giving the people you love personal space.Do not try to compare yourself with others,other females and etc.You should develop your inner character discover a God given talent or special purpose for your life that will enrich and help people and the world.You need to have other hobbies besides makeup and fashion.Try volunteering your time and giving back to society.The less focused on yourself you become the more self-esteem and awareness you will gain.
2006-09-11 16:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is not in how others see you. It's how you see you. You need to be happy with how you look. You need to be happy without someone in your life before you can be happy with someone in your life. You are jealous and possessive because of your insecurities with your own appearance. Your right there are a lot of better looking people out there and a lot of worse looking ones too. If you were in an accident and had a large scar on your face would that make you ugly? Really good people find out who you are and if you are a good person you will be beautiful them no matter what you look like.
Work on your self esteem at least as much as you work on your appearance. Self help books and tapes are good and some people prefer proffessional help.
Everyone will look at other people at some time or another (it's human nature), it doesn't mean they are going to leave. If they love you their head will always turn back your way.
2006-09-11 23:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kimber B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing to pamper yourself and to look good, but it seems like you are too preoccupied with the way you look. I am also like you, I yell at my boyfriend when he is talking to a girl, and I compare myself to every girl that walks by. I am accepting the fact that I will never be tall and skinny like the fashion models, actresses etc, that seem to have us to think that is what we must look like to be perfect and beautiful, but it's really not. They are all superficial. Your boyfriend was with you because of you, not about your personaly upkeep. You have to just let it go and accentuate the positive assets you have, and you can save your money into something more useful. You need to try to overcome your jealousy, insecurity, and low-self esteem and realize that there is no one else like you, and I don't know many girls who join a gym and keep going. Getting older is a natural occurence of life, and if you don't learn to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are, then no one can.
2006-09-11 23:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Christine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write down at least 5 things you like about yourself. when you get up every morning repeat those five things to yourself. You will never be happy unless you make yourself happy. I was in a relationship with a guy who is possessive and jealous. it is a miserable way to live for both parties. learn to love yourself for who you are. focus on the positive and act confident about yourself and soon you will see a change and feel better.
2006-09-12 00:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by heidi20012002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not a way to live life... just be yourself and people will love you for thAT...and its whats inside that counts.. sure every girl loves to get her nails and hair done but minimize that to like once or twice every month...but other days, just wear a sweater cute jeans hair in a ponytail and let loose...you will feel grrrreat! and by the way dont get jelous if your boyfriend talks to another girl ...i get SOO jelous too but i know my limits...he is with you not with her! and you have guy friends too right? and guys HATE BONES.... they hate it! by the end of the night, a man doesnt like to go to bed with a bag of bones. listen to the songs now,, they sing about curves and sexy *** and bootylicious.... nobody finds paris hilton or nicole richie hot cuz they are DISGUSTING.. they find jessica alba, jlo and beyonce HOT
2006-09-11 23:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by lauren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath then exhale.You have to let him go and start to learn about yourself.You are more impotent then he is wright know.I understand it hard but you need to learn about yourself.I think it is time you understand.You are still young yet take your time and gust think.The word is try and think.You are groaning.
2006-09-12 00:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax... life is too short for such petty things
before you know it you will have bigger fish to fry, that is REAL problems and you will look back longing for these simple things.... IT GETS WORSE
2006-09-12 00:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by tallywag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least your woman enough to admit your problems. all i can tell you is just try spending more time on your inside like you do on your outside.
2006-09-11 23:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by aquarius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋