I currently pay my spouse $1500/month for child support, 1/2 of day care, 1/2 his medical and dental, and 1/2 of his extra curricular activities (boy scouts, karate, etc.) recently she has started to "BILL" me (i.e. she says I owe her) for other stuff like 1/2 of a co-pay for a medical visit, 1/2 the dental bill over what my insurance wouldn't cover. Am I legal responsible to pay for these incidental things also??? I'm not trying to be a dead beat, I just want to make sure she is not trying to take advantage. She works full time and makes a decent wage.
2006-09-11 16:42:28 · 17 answers · asked by ken_michon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes -- Co-Pays for Dental and Medical over what the Insurance does NOT cover (usually out of plan providers) IS part of your responsibility for Child Support as well.
This is a FACT of life -- out of network providers DO charge more for their services -- have you and your ex tried to find in-network providers for the dental and medical?
2006-09-11 17:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your child support is based on how the living conditions were at the time of divorce. Your support is for things like 1/2 co-pay's ect. Any additional needs to be agreed upon. If there is nothing in writing, your being taken for a ride.
2006-09-11 18:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child support and alimony is all after the divorce but if you want to see your child you might want to do extra things but you already have. if she is working and has a great income as you i would be careful what i paid out.she could really get you by the gonads and never let you see your child again.i would visit your attorney and get the lowdown. seems she is using you to get what she wants.also see if she is doing anything not kosher like staying out late drinking drugs you know the drill.and if she has overnight guests while your child is there to see all this mess. oh and you already pay 1/2 of medical and dental so if she bills you for copay then when insurance pays they send her a check for the overage.think about that but not very long. let me know how all this turns out please. women can be heartless about money concerns.
2006-09-11 16:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sort of comes down to what is written in your final judgement of divorce (settlement agreement). If it's ordered that you pay half, then you have to pay. If it says nothing, then you know she's taking advantage. However, the items you mentioned, were things you already said you paid half of. In most cases, if you provide the insurance, the co-payment is paid by the person taking the child to the doctor/dentist visit. There is an exception...say something isn't covered by insurance, then you are obligated to pay half. I hope this helps straighten things out for you.
2006-09-11 16:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much of all these and other expenses would you be paying if you two were still together?
That is one way to look at it.
Another way is how much would you be paying if she charged you for her being a mom to the child.
I am not trying to be mean here and you should be able to see the bills etc. of other expenses and pay your fair share.
You are the dad and love your child and must realize that the older they get the higher the costs.
As long as the bills are real, then yes, pay your share.
2006-09-11 16:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The medical bills is dependent upon what the court orders say. I recommend going over the child support order and see what it says about uncovered medical expenses. Typically, these items are included in the standard child support order on uncovered medical expense responsibility.
2006-09-11 16:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets ask this does she make as much as you or more
then if she does then she shouldnt ask
but dude common most women dont even make 1/2 of what a man makes and give her this she had your child you could nt put a price on what pain she went threw
stop being that way and pay
do you have the kids 24/7 it is a hell of a responsibility and if you cant pay 1/2 that does sound to me your not too worried about your kid
your worried about you you and your wallet
2006-09-11 16:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Larelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're being taken for a ride,$1500 a month is a lot.Where i'm from all the father is entitled to pay is child support and thats it.Stand up to her or she'll keep tugging on your short and curlies.
2006-09-11 18:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you might want to check with your lawyer. Depending on what state you are there are different laws regarding out of pocket medical/dental expenses. You could be liable for half or, like my ex all of the out of pocket expenses. My ex and I split the extracurricular activities. I paid for Girl Scouts he paid for Kung Fu. While you're at it you might also want to check on who is paying for the college education. That was a BIG eye opener for my ex...
2006-09-11 18:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did the judge court order you to pay,most of the time it's child support he sets and maybe Insurance.
2006-09-11 16:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋