I'm a secretary. The people there are nice but it's really nothing more then a paycheck. Filing, faxing, answering phones ... this is not how I want to spend my days.
When I was younger college wasn't an option. It was pay for tution or pay for rent. I was living off a box of .69 cent mac'n'cheese made with powdered milk (sans butter - too expensive) and making it last a week so forget things like text books. I took on a secretary job to make ends meet and gave up trying to go to school.
I'm married now and my husband is encouraging me to go back to school if it's what I want to do. And I do. I really do. But, I don't want to put our lives on hold for four or five years to get my degree. It doesn't seem fair to make him responsible fincially while I go to school. And having to get a part-time job also means a lot less time with my hubby and our pets (no kids). But I'm so depressed during the day I could cry.
What would you do?
2006-09-11 16:13:41 · 19 answers · asked by zombie_togo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would go to school. Look into community college and night classes, if that would work better for you. It is probably just as difficult for your husband to see you so miserable as it would be to not see you as often while you went to school. Plus, it sounds like your husband is more than willing to support you while you are in school, and its really an investment if you think about it. In the end, you will have a better job and he will benefit from your happiness and your new income. Also, you might luck out and your classes might afford you more time with your husband. For instance, I'm 20 and a college student and I support myself with a part-time job. My classes are on Tuesday /Thursday and I work MWF. Good luck with whatever decision you make, and don't worry if you feel out of place at first if you go to school, I know that a lot of our non-traditional students don't feel like they fit in but try looking into on campus organizations or study groups and that should help ease the awkwardness. (if there is any at all)
2006-09-11 16:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by rom_a_tom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorta in the same predicament. My recommendation would be to go to school, relying on your husband financially isn't wrong if you are going to go to school to make substantially more money in the long run. It is worth the costs when you get into a good job. Otherwise, you will probably be a secretary the rest of your life. And that is not what you want either. Worse case scenario, since I have looked into all of this. Since you already have the secretarial background, take one of those Career Credit Classes as an Administrative Assistant. That will raise your pay rate anyway. (Costs about 2 grand). Administrative and Executive Assistants make anywhere between 30 - 60 thousand a year! That is a good start anyway. Then you can pursue what you would like to do at your own pace. Hope this helps a little.
2006-09-11 16:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by binkisoto79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a better job. Try to make more money than you already are so you if you decide to take some classes then you will at least have some extra money to help out with expenses. And you don't have to go to school full time you can take it at your own pace. You shouldn't feel guilty about your husband helping you pay for college. He's your husband. You and him are one. You should think like a team. You are there for eachother. And him helping you do this will allow you to get the degree and job you want and make more money to contribute to your marriage. Like you said you don't want to spend your days being a secretary. So don't. Stop feeling down about it and make your life what you want it to be. You will be happier and in turn your marriage will be better because of it.
2006-09-11 16:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going to college doesn't mean putting your life on hold. You can go part time. Start with a class or two. See how you do. I raised a toddler as a single parent and finished my degree with honors. It depends on how motivated you are. I wish I'd had the financial and moral support of a husband or anyone else for that matter. I struggled, but it was worth it.
You also might want to consider career training that would open up promotion for you at your present job. Many business schools offer programs that are 6 to 9 months long. Ask your human resources department about what programs are compatible for upward mobility.
Good luck. Count your blessings. Sounds like you're sitting pretty to me!
2006-09-11 16:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get an associates degree in 2 years or some colleges even have accelerated degrees in 18 months. you could take courses online while working. You dont have to put your life on hold. Take 2 courses at a time and before you know it you have a degree and you wont have to lose time with ur husband and pets. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-11 16:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Maa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go back to school. I think that you should also just get a part time job. I know that you would miss the time with your husband but you could still spend time together on the weekends. It's really a small price to pay to get an education.
2006-09-11 16:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just DO IT! You have a supportive husband, no guilt (for leaving kids), and a chance to be mentally stimulated and achieve a goal. It'll all work out--you have lots of options and can adjust your schedule or get a student loan if you need to. What are you waiting for? YOU GO GIRL! Good luck!
2006-09-11 16:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Helpful Kim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your not happy with the job...then do something about it. do what your husband suggests and go back to school and get a degree in something you will enjoy. My daughter got her degree in her chosen field and her husband is going for his degree now while he works part-time. A lot of married people are doing that...so just go for it!!!
2006-09-11 16:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart! What ever makes your heart smile, that is what you should do. It is NEVER to late to get ahead. If you do want to go back to school, do it now before you do have children since that will only make it harder in the long run. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-09-11 16:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would see if your company has ways to pay for schooling for you if it is work related.....(Lots of places do).....Then I would start with a class or two while still working, so you aren't spending the majority of your time away from home......Believe me, it'll pay off in the end........Take care, dear......
2006-09-11 16:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋