Hi! I'm an asian girl, 5'4, and I dance. My friends say that I'm pretty cute and attractive, but I have been confused by white guys for a very long time. I was in a very old culture for too long and there were too many things i dont like about it, so maybe that's why I really like white guys. I think they are cute, easy-going and fun. But I feel it real hard to find a serious relationship with a white guy. I have met lots of guys, most of them seem just like to fool around with me or want to experience getting an aisan chick, rare are serious. That often lead me to doubt myself that I being an asian girl is hard to be the first choice for white guys.
Some sayings like "asian women are submissive, you treat them whatever they still wont leave" makes me feel even worse. I just want people like me as a girl not an aisan female with the perception of "more willing to please and weaker". Could anybody tell me,do white guys want a serious relationship with an asian girl or just fool around?
2006-09-11 16:08:45 · 19 answers · asked by Julia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would if you were old enough
2006-09-11 16:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by Iron Rider 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I had a very serious relationship with an Asian girl. She was my true love. I did not date her because of skin color or cultural stereotyping. We are no longer together but she was my love because of who she was. Her intelligence and love of life. Even the way her nose wrinkled when she smiled. And she was definately not submissive.
You know you have to be strong so do it. It already seems like you can see through the fakers so just trust your instincts. You are going to find ******* no matter where you look whether they are black, white, asian or latino.
I do know white guys that think that way and they aren't people I would associate with to begin with. There are white guys who do want a serious relationship. If they are younger, you will run into quite a few boys who are immature and think that shallow. Keep your faith though...there are a few of us nice guys left.
2006-09-11 16:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by dmyers1071 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you this:
Many years ago... and for older guys.... American men seem to be under the impression that Asian women are submissive and will be more passive in the relationship..... so... be forewarned.
However... my son is freshly 19 and in his first year at college (September birthday..... Mommy held him a year in Kindergarten) and he just loves Asian girls. I tease him.... because he's so freakin' white - lol But... his first love was an Asian girl and I swear there's some magnet that pulls him there and them to him!!!
It's not about the culture, but about the features for him. He finds them sexy and I can't blame him. There are plenty of American guys who want a serious relationship with an Asian girl. Let's review:
Asian girls are not pasty white... they are beautifully golden. They have lovely dark hair and eyes... and they are typically built fairly compactly and my son is not tall. Because education is considered carefully in Asian cultures, even girls tend to be serious about their studies (as is my son) and respect for education would be something they would have in common.
Because Asian girls are often encouraged to play musical instruments and my son is a Music Education major.... that would yet one more connection... because they are taught respect for family first, they would not find my son's attachment to his own family to be odd... and that would be understood as well.
Anyway... I've gotten the message.... that this is who he finds attractive and I might as well just plan on my first grandbaby being half-Asian... and if he chooses the gal I hope he will.... we're all good :) For me, it's not about the culture. It's about him finding the right match for himself. I think his match just happens to be Asian. Serious relationship? Oh.... yes, ma'am. My son is very serious. And he doesn't yet "fool around." I don't think anyone believes that Asian girls are easy....
2006-09-11 16:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the girl. If you are upfront and honest that you do not want to just fool around but want a serious relationship, you will have a better chance of finding a good man. I really don't think it has anything to do with race.
2006-09-11 16:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a serious relationship with an asian girl and I am white
so I think it depends on the individual white guy
I love my baby soooooooo much
2006-09-11 16:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Some guys do, others do not. You have to be careful with the guys you chose and you have to be strong. You cannot let them treat you poorly. Find yourself a guy who will treat you the way you want to be treated, and make sure he treats you that way every day. Don't forgive those so called "episodes" when your guy may be under stress or something. If he says something hurtful, ask him for an apology right there, no waiting. If he refuses, then just leave him. There are plenty of other white guys for you to try. Eventually you will come across the one that's just right for you.
I wish you the very best of luck. Good guys are hard to find. But they are worth the time it takes to find them. Just never give up and never settle for something you aren't happy with. We have one life to live, and we have every right to demand no substitutes.
Cheers
2006-09-11 18:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by Magina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know several Caucasian men in serious relationships or marriages with Asian girls. It is very common in my area (Vancouver, Canada). I don't think that mature men view Asian women as being submissive or subservient at all. In fact, in most of the successful racially mixed relationships that I am aware of, the Asian woman often "wears the pants" in the household. Perhaps you are just attracting/dating the wrong kind of men. Find someone who values you for who you are, respects your background and culture, and treats you as you deserve to be treated. Good luck, girl!
2006-09-11 16:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm the first asian guy my girlfriend ever being with. she started to notice mixed couples. and for somereason, we notice most mixed couples are white guy with an asian girl. why?! I don't know. but I think traditionally, (not being racist) white ppl and asian ppl have different qualities. IMHO, if a guy wants to be with you. he likes the qualities that you got. it's got nothing to do with being asian or not asian. a white guy can fool around with asian girl, or a white girl. a asian girl can fool around with a white guy or an asian guy. so it's got nothing to do with race.
if I want to fool around(not saying that I do!).. I go for anyone that lets me fool around. hope this answers your question.
2006-09-11 16:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by LeoRS250 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you meet a white guy in a bar or dance club fool around for the most part but if you meet them at a place other than that you will stand a better chance of meeting someone who is wanting a relationship
2006-09-11 16:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you won't find them in the club or bar. Look for them doing everyday, boring sorts of things. Get to know those guys as friends at first. Keep in touch with those that seem mature.
2006-09-11 16:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It;s all about getting to really know someone;'s motivation for being with you and you with them.
YOu have to learn to ask questions to a guy to find out where his head is at. Best way: Becom,e really close firneds with them, several, for a good while, so you know who they really are. Then chose.
You can't know someone by how well they do in bed, or how well they kiss. or by how much they spend on a date.
2006-09-11 16:12:06 · answer #11 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋