Should all marriage problems be left to God to handle? We have chosen our partners for life, just stop and believe it will all work out as part of God's plan for us? Even with abuse?
2006-09-11 16:05:04 · 15 answers · asked by tiger30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If worry is a sin, then you worry about being in a state of sin, which is a sin, which causes you to worry...
Boy, they think of everything, don't they?
2006-09-11 16:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by sparticle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
About your first question, worrying is a sin. It's also a very unhelpful way to deal with problems. But worrying isn't the same as being aware or being concerned about the problem, it's that sort of think that makes you lay in bed and feel sick about all the problems without ever trying a solution.
About marriage, God has already done a great deal for man. He's inspired the Bible, preserved it over thousands of years, and inspired millions of great thinkers, scholars, and normal people to help you with your life. Probably it's a little much to ask for God to personally come down and help with the marriage, I think he hopes that we seek guidance when we need it and work as a team. Marriages normally just don't 'work,' there's a lot that goes into a good marriage, and marriages do get destroyed. Jesus lists several reasons why a marriage could get destroyed, and so does Paul. But to really understand them in the dynamics of your own relationship, you may want to talk to a preacher or preist.
2006-09-11 16:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by locusfire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you sought after God's will when choosing your spouse, then leaving the rest to Him is easy. If however, you are married to someone other than God's best for you, then the road is going to be rocky. However, no matter how you chose your spouse, you did choose them, so God's perfect will for you is to work at the marriage. But God never intended for someone to be another's punching bag. Divorce is not a sin, exactly. Its the remarriage part that leads to sin. SO, if you're marriage is an abusive one, find help, seek a way out, and GET OUT as soon as possible.
2006-09-11 16:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by tmreiber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that Most definatly, Keep in mind God too wants you to seek help when needed that is why he has called other believers to be Counselors and pastors who are there to consule those who are in need of help here in the present.
God has a design for your life to live a life full and rich . but also wants you to live Chirst like in what you do say and walk . that doesn't mean that you have to live every day worring about it. that is why he God says ask and it shall be given , seek and you shall find. meaning answers to lifes questions. from other believers and peoples in the comminuties.
But God didn't mean for you to Be hurt in anyway wither it's in a relationship or from your peers.
If you are being abused the to get Help .
NO person what so ever deserves to be mistreated in anyway and God doesn't think highly of those who do.
Depends on what church you heard that Sermon at . that isn't all true. God didn't say anywhere that worry was a sin. it's what you take out of it and maybe he was refering that how your guilt gets to you when you worry about things is like how you get when you sin.
2006-09-11 16:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by d_a_truckergal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if you're married to an abuser and you have children you should stay because God will handle it?
If this was the case there would be no abuse in marriage....and we all know that's not true.
I don't believe in God, but if you do then give Him some help and use your common sense and leave.
2006-09-11 16:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God cant do it all by himself. We need our own input into our own lifes! Abuse is not a part of God's plan so that should never be something people have to put up with from others
2006-09-11 16:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
personally, i don't think to worry is sinful. to worry obsessively maybe, but not to just worry. worry helps us to make the right decision. as far as leaving your problems to god to handle that is a good idea but you have to be willing to listen to the answers he is giving us. sometimes god sends us messages that we don't want to hear. does god want us to be abused? of course not. the question you need to ask yourself is did you marry the person you were supposed to marry. sometimes we give ourselves what we want instead of what we need and then wonder why we don't have any peace in our lives. that's god trying to tell us that we are not where we are supposed to be in this life. i don't know if you've ever heard of tyler perry.he's a playwright and he's also made a couple of movies (madea's family reunion and diary of a mad black woman). you should watch ll of his plays, they will help you put your life into perspective. his most recent ones are why did i get married and madea goes to jail. at least get these two and watch them. there is a message there that i know will help you decide what you need to do. you can get them from his website, tylerperry.com, or you can buy them from any walmart. good luck to you.
2006-09-11 16:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Latonya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that God expects any of us to stay in a relationship that contains physical or mental abuse. He gives us the tools to make choices, even if the choice is to divorce from abuse.
2006-09-11 18:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, all marriage problems should not be left to God.
If a couple is having problems they cannot just leave it all in the hands of a being that may not even exist. One thing that surely does exist is the married couple.
Some churches even offer marriage counceling...
2006-09-11 16:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we should not worry and by God we should give him our problem to answer. and many fail at this death. let me explain: you sit under a tree and pray to God to feed you because you are hungry and an apple falls. the problem is you die because you don't get up to eat the apple. if abuse is involved where is his obedience to his oath to love honer and cherish you. not only did he break that with you but with God. Job suffered alot "suggest reading" but that is no reason why you suffer for some one else's sin of abuse.
2006-09-11 16:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a difference between worrying something will happen and having it happen. You need to talk to someone if you are being abused, yu family or counseling, close friend or someone. It is a sin to worry something might happen because we are to have faith but this is a different matter, I would say.
2006-09-11 16:09:48 · answer #11 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋