if you found out on the internet (searching through court cases) that someone you knew accidentally caused the death of someone in their past (like 20 yrs ago)....would you confront them about it, or pretend like you don't know?
2006-09-11 15:39:29 · 33 answers · asked by Ryan T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh gee.. pretend.. youre kidding me!!!
i would confront the issue
2006-09-11 15:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Min 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you "confront" the person? It was an accident, right? So assuming that he/she has felt horrible about this for the last 20 years, do they really need everybody they meet feeling the need to "confront" them? They didn't do anything wrong to you, and it was only an accident that caused them to wrong the other person, so no you have no right to "confront" anybody.
2006-09-11 16:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one...
I guess it would depend on how well I knew the person and how close I was to the person who accidentally caused the death.
If I was close to the person and they had never mentioned it, I probably would not confront them. They probably are not very comfortable talking about it, it may be painful to remember that incident. In short, I guess I would not admit to knowing about it.
2006-09-11 15:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some topics that I believe are inappropriate to bring up.
Another person's sexuality should not be talked about unless it is brought up by that other person. If someone has experienced the death of someone close, I don't believe it should be broached but by that person.
Discussion of this accidental death should only be opened by that person. If it is something he/she wishes to discuss, they will let you know by talking about it. If they don't, I would let the subject lay.
2006-09-11 15:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Heathery Lane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO I would not confront the issue. FIrst of all you invaded his/her privacy by looking at the case. Second of all if it happened 20 years ago then that person has paid for that crime. Do we make them pay over and over? No I don't think so.
2006-09-11 15:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was an accident. They're not some kind of horrible person because of it. If you bring it up then you're likely to start some drama that is very unnecessary. Just treat them the way that you have been and forget about it.
2006-09-11 15:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on what the person meant to me and how it affected me. If it were my husband and the idea of him taking a life really bothered me then yea I would bring it up. But if its just a friend and you're not too bothered by it don't bring it up. It could be a touchy subject for the person either way. They could really hate themselves for it. Use your judgement with this on how you think the person would react.
2006-09-11 15:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by sj830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to go around it and get them to tell me about it themselves. If they don't, I would bring it up in a very gentle way. Pretending like you don;t know will not only be hard, it is almost like living a lie.
2006-09-11 15:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by avon_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, What good will come out of this confrontation? What is the purpose of the confrontation?
2006-09-11 15:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by chefcaitlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there must be a reason that you were checking out their history - Just mention that you were doing reserach and "saw it".
what is there to "confront" - do you want them to tell you "why they did it"?
Just mention it, and then see where they go with it - it's really none of your business unless you're going to get married or serious, or if it causes you to pause and bail out of the relatipnship.
2006-09-11 15:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it was an accident i would just leave them alone about it. There would be no point to bring it up that may bring back the tramatic event. That could cause server damage to them. There really is no point in bring it up.
2006-09-11 15:41:45 · answer #11 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋