i was married for 6 yrs i got divorced about 1yr ago since then my wife has had sevral sexual relationships i have not even been close,the big reason why is iam very self concious of my penis size its 4 inches fully erect and very thin she never had a problem with it but i have a close female friend who i asked and she said let me se what were dealing with i should here and she said honestly it small and she prefers big ones iam so confused i havent had sex in year becasue i wont let a women see me naked cause iam so embarrsed women please help honest opion and advice
2006-09-11 15:28:36 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're not confused about your penis size, you're self-conscious and pre-occupied about it. If you met another woman, and you decided you wanted to have sex with her, and she noticed the size of your penis, and commented negatively about it, then you know she's not the one, so the next thing you do is, thank her for a nice date/dinner/movie, then you get dressed and leave. Don't feel bad about it either. She doesn't deserve you.
Since your ex had no problem with your penis size, you need another woman who will not have a problem with it. You could advertise on a dating site, and be honest from the beginning, that way, there are no surprises.
Some women do like bigger penises, because we like that feeling of being filled up. Some women are built smaller, and can accomodate smaller penises. There's a fit for everybody; all you have to do is stop being self-conscious about it and appreciate what God gave you. Good luck.
2006-09-11 15:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest a lot of women look at the heart more then the penis size. It is just like the size of a womens boobs some men have to have them big but others can care less because it is what is inside of the women rather then what is on the outside. There are some big penis men that probably have a tough time as well landing a woman. You should not worry about your penis size I say have fun with your life. If they take off because of that then a women like that is not worth having around. It is not the size that matters it is how you work it. Have fun do not worry about that.
2006-09-11 15:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your member needs a microscope to see, there are women out there that will be more than happy just to have a good man. Perhaps u should find a woman who has a "tighter" bucket instead of loose, saggy ones and maybe the size descrepancy will not matter much at all. Besides, there are a lot of things u can do to make up for what u perceive as your flaws. Unless you're willing to consult with a plastic surgeon, u need to deal with your insecurities because your attitude alone will deter women from even sleeping with u.
2006-09-11 16:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men really worry about the penis size more than women do! Seriously!! Your "friend" was'nt doing you any favors by being so brutal!!! That was really mean. If you are confident; nothing can stand in your way! Don't let the comment of one shallow woman ruin your fun!! A year without sex is crazy!! You need to find a woman who loves you for you; and everything else will just fall into place! Don't be disheartened!! Cheer up, and good luck!!
2006-09-12 03:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring up penis size until you are well into a personal/romantic relationship. For God's sake, don't ever say, "I'd like to make love to you, but I'm afraid you'll be disappointed by my small member." If you don't bring it up, and if you satisfy your lover orally or manually before intercourse, she won't bring it up either. Hopefully, she'll be too tired to talk about it!
Focus on other positive aspects of your personality and perfecting other aspects of your sexual performance and foreplay. For example, how big and agile is your tongue?
If it REALLY really bothers you, you could ask your doctor about some of those male enhancement drugs, or ask him to recommend a surgeon who specializes in surgically enhancing penis size. But that's pretty drastic.
A good woman will appreciate you for all of the wonderful qualities you possess, not just the size of your pecker.
2006-09-11 16:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by shomechely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I really don't think that size matters that much, unless it is microscopically small. You should try to find someone that you can have a loving relationship with and then your penis size won't matter. You don't don't need to be focusing on sex so much. You should focus on finding someone to share your life with. Sex isn't all that matters.Plus there are many ways to satisfy a woman sexually without using your penis.
2006-09-11 15:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Marcy T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if the woman really cares about you, she won't let this send her packing. yes, you are small but there are other things you both can do to please each other. as long as you are both honest about what your needs are, you should be able to work through this. now i wouldn't divulge all of this information to her on the first date. but if you find someone that you truly care about you will want to talk to her about it beforehand. that will help take some of the pressure off since she will already know what she's getting. good luck to you.
by the way, your wife didn't cheat because you are small, she cheated because that's just the type of person she is. it's not your fault.
2006-09-11 16:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Latonya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are far more concerned about size than women are. And any woman who would change her mind about dating you based on size isn't a woman you want to be dating anyway.
Women are concerned with whether you're a considerate lover or not. Do you engage in foreplay? Are you as concerned about her pleasure as you are your own? If you answered yes to both, you'll do just fine.
2006-09-11 15:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by vita64 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your female friend was not helpful in asking to see what you were dealing with and then telling you she liked opposite. She could have told you that without making you feel more self contious.
To me, some men worry too much about that one particular body part. Such worry causes too much stress. There are many ways to pleasure.
2006-09-11 15:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mikki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to concentrate on foreplay and technique. you have a tongue right. use it. the just go from there. You'll never know unless you try. And I hear that if you worry about that it actually shrinks. And of course , you might want to stay away from women that have had multiple vaginal births. they'll think it's even smaller. But don't go around showing it off .
2006-09-11 16:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by joy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋