My issue is, though, is that I'm gay and as of late, I've heard so much hatred about the gay community almost as soon as I've converted. I went from a religion that it was alright and good to be yourself and be open and gay if you are gay, but I'm hearing this like "Ban Wal-Mart because it's an abonination due to them supporting gays" (not like most any other corporation doesn't support us anyway pfft). Was thinking, maybe I should reject Jesus because of his people. After all, I don't want to go to a church that doesn't like me. I've always thought it was, "Love the sinner, not the sin" not "hate the sinner because they sin". Everyone sins, end done deal, we're human and were meant to make mistakes. Should I just find a better church somewhere or should I just leave the Christian faith like I've been seriously thinking about?
2006-09-11 15:25:45 · 20 answers · asked by borrein 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well...I'll be honest and say that there are *some* decent christians out there, but it would be nice to see ya come back...
Blessed be )O(
Sarah
2006-09-11 21:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
borrein,
This might sound a little tough, so brace yourself.
What the Hell did you go to Christianity for? If you are a Christian because you thought that people there would treat you a certain way, you are coming for the wrong reason. A Christian is a Christian because He believes in the Resurrection, not some social order within the Church on Sundays.
So you are right to question whether you should stay in it or not. You obviously didn't become a Christian because you believed that God was more important to you than anything else in your life. And that Jesus is Lord. By saying that you are sdmitting that He is King and you are His subject. I guess all that meant nothing to you, because apparently what is most important to you are the Fundamentalist Christians who don't understand the Gospel message in the first place.
So don't waste your time unless you do some deciding on why you came, and that you came for the right reasons.
And don't you let anyone tell you that you can't be a Christian because your Gay.
2006-09-11 20:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm a Christian and seriously, I don't know why you get the idea that we hate you! I don't hate people, we're all the same inside, we just want to love and be loved.
When you become a Christian and truely give your life to Christ, the Holy Spirit will live inside you, and it won't leave. But, it doesn't happen unless you are truely sorry for your sins...at least your obvious ones. Your love for God gets so strong that you will feel bad when you sin. I feel bad for you if people are telling you what your sin is. When I first became a Christian, I had this woman constantly tell me everything I was doing wrong. It would have turned me off to God, but the Spirit is so strong, I knew that what she was doing wasn't right.
Your relationship with God will be personal and you won't listen to what others say, unless they are your mentors or spiritual teachers. You won't be swayed by what everyone says...that's why we call Jesus the Rock....you are firm in your relationship with Him.
Sorry this got so long, your story just tugged at my heart.
If I knew you, and you told me how you felt, I would just love you and help you start learning about God. God will work on your when and how He wants to. I want to encourage you to work on GOD's love for you and don't concentrate on the sin. God will help you with that. If a "Christian" gives you a hard time just tell them that you're a baby-Christian and really need to concentrate on God's love for you so that He can heal you when He's ready. Tell them that any sin you have is between you and God.
I'll just encourage you to get a NLT or a NIV Bible and read the Gospel of John.....after that, the book of Romans, I think you'll enjoy it.
Peace & Love
2006-09-11 16:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by megmom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are real churches out there that are not about trying to judge you because of your sexual orientation. Try to find them. Usually they are non-denomination. Living gay in a christian world is hard and I do not even know first handas I ahve not come out of the closet yet. But I do know that there are real christians out there and that true christianity is not much further from paganism any ways, If you get a chance read the Gospel of Mary Magdalene, I thinkthis is really what Jesus was trying to teach. It will be hard to find openess especially if you live in a small city. My dad is a preacher and he preached against gays until my cousin had a sex change, then his whole mission changed because he still loved him even though he came out. He started preaching love no matter what and I love my dad for it. Good Luck, I know it will be tuff but we nonhypocritical, all loving christians are out thier.
2006-09-11 15:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay away from evangelical christianity. They are intolerant zealous types. These types of christian take a persons homosexuality out on them and attack them as persons.
Switch to a christian church more tolerant of homosexuality.
I am Catholic and will die one. Some one above attacked Catholicism and I am going to set the record straight. I left the church for 10 years and then came back. Contrary to what you might have heard, Catholicism does not hate homosexuals. They love the person and hate the sin. Ideally they would like gays to be celibate and lead lives of prayer. Sex should only be for those who are bound in holy matrimony. Catholics are against same sex marriage though. However, preists readily forgive gays for having sex out side of marriage.
Catholics believe that gays have as much chance of going to heaven as anyone else. Gays participate in the life of the church. Catholics believe that being gay is a state that some is. They don't have the weirdo people with schools trying to turn you straight.
So while the church frowns on gay marriage and would like me to be celibate my whole life, their is confession, I am loved and accepted, it is recognized that people are gay and their is nothing they can do about it, I can go to heaven and then a whole bunch of other things like apostolic succession, the history, saints, the sacrements and my goodness I could write a book.
2006-09-11 15:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the religion that you persist with does no longer remember. because that's the only God that one and all religions that are monotheistic position self assurance in. And in case you're severe or wanting to locate God; then any faith will make you income that in life. And in case you imagine that you received't keep going from one way of theory to a unique, then you'll locate that authentic direction which will take you to God. And on the authentic of the day no plausible quit or stress you to no longer undergo in recommendations God except for you. So the way you pick to undergo in recommendations Him, and the time; surely relies upon on you. for this reason, the question isn't what faith you opt to transform to, yet even if you're prepared to persist with the direction that God has made. faith isn't God made, that's human function that individuals have made to distinguish one yet another. So I received't say convinced or no to replacing to Christianity or staying in Sikhism, because they both ARE dazzling PATHS the picture of alternative RELIGIONS to achieve and attain GOD.
2016-10-16 00:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is... you are not a "christian" unless you have come to God in The Way He proscribed and received His free gift of Salvation... by your own statements you have not done this. No one can just decide to be a christian. Only God can decree anyone to be of The Church of which Jesus The Christ is The head. Those of The Christian Faith are The Body of The Church.
No one openly defying God and practicing a sin He has decreed an abomination will be alowed in The Church. It is not the sin you have repented of that will keep you from God... it is the sin you defiantly refuse to repent of that will keep you seperated from God..
2006-09-11 15:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by IdahoMike 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
OK as I stated in another answer Leviticus 18:22-18;23 states that it is abomination also read Romans 1:26 - 1:28. I do not believe you should give up your faith because you dont like other peoples opinions. I further believe that Jesus can heal your heart and take away your pain. Keep your eyes on him and not the people who claim to serve him and you will be ok. Also I am glad you have found faith, but have you realy found Jesus? I was an adulterer and when I found Christ he took away the desire to be with multiple women. Please Open your heart and mind to him, Matthew 9:37nn says the nHarvest is plentyful but the labourors are few.
2006-09-11 16:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Suppose you were a child molester and went from being a pagan to being a Christian.Would you remain a child molester?Your right we all sin.But sins of this nature are an abomination to the Lord . That doesn't mean God doesn't love you it means He hates the sin.In the beginning God commanded Adam and Eve to be fruitful.How can a relationship of this nature be fruitful ?Won't you please ask God to help you see this in some new light ?I'm sure you won't regret it.I'll be praying for you , and don't give up.
2006-09-11 18:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Extremism and fanaticism are the enemies here. When you hung out with pagans, you could probably figure out who the extremists were and avoided them. It's just like that, but everyone's well dressed and look normal. Maybe you could find a church that is more moderate and accepting and avoid the fanatics who spread hate and conflict.
2006-09-11 15:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Glen,
Remember, When you have someone that loves you no matter what, he will help you in all your decisions, I am sure that he wanted you to be the same kind of religion that he was.. The bible says not to be unequaly yolked together.. that means in FAITH.... This is what I feel that you need to do is just love the person that you are with, and Everything will work out for the best..
2006-09-11 15:38:00 · answer #11 · answered by joe_vaughn2003 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋