whats the best way to get over an ex and find self-respect?

Question

whatever ive tried...hasnt worked.

Answer 1

As nasty as it sounds date someone else.The guy right after is interim guy,you'll compare him to the last one constantly and chances are you'll never fall for him,but he gets a lot of benefits too while it lasts

Answer 2

I am sorry, many of us know exactly what you are feeling. No self respect, no confidence, no self worth. You feel like you failed and it was your fault. I know...
But it was not all your fault. It happens and you made the right choice.
You have talents and skills and abilities. There are things that only you can do for others. Have you thought of volunteering? An elder care facility or a hospital maybe? Call your girl friend(s) and go out once week shopping or to a movie. Have dinner with a good friend often. Believe it or not, try to help here on Answers. And buy yourself something nice every now and then. A new outfit, a sexy little dress, something just for you.

You do have worth and value. The pain will slowly subside, it will take awhile. But don't let it control YOU! That part of your life is behind you now. Embrace the future and the possibilities. Your soul-mate is out there. But don't rush into that either, it will happen. Take the time you need to heal. Take this time for yourself. You are in charge now and it will feel great pretty soon. It's okay, you'll be fine! I know it hurts right now. I'm sorry for that.

Answer 3

Forgive yourself for whatever you have done that has made you lose self respect. The relationship is over. Whatever you did doesn't matter anymore. Apologize if that will help you get over it. Write letters to the ex and don't mail them. Writing helps you purge feelings and say what you didn't get to express. Treat yourself well. Indulge yourself with treats. You know what you like and what you can afford. Establish relationships with other people that are not romantic. Give yourself time. You'll get over it. Get rid of momentoes. Box them and put them away. Don't visit them. No, you can't be just friends. If that were possible you'd likely still be together. Stop accepting calls. Stop making them. Occupy yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

getting over an ex is hard and worst when you have low self esteem . the best answer i can give you is the knowledge of my own experience. I've tried allot of things but the best thing is to concentrate on thing that matter more in your life. ex sample : family ,friends , work , and remember your experience can help another.you are a strong person not because you can lift heavy thing but because you asked for help remember what you learned from the past relationship and become stronger and yes looking in the mirror and telling your self what a good person you are how good you look really work it takes time but who can you if you can't trust your self remember god loves you. and if he love you then you can love your self.

Answer 5

Time. I remember when I first broke it off. You will see how free you are and how wonderful a person you are. I used to be told that I was not that pretty maybe even ugly. Then after that he would tell me that in this world there was no room for an ugly woman. I felt like crap. I felt like I could get no one else and that I was so lucky to have him. But my friends told me that I was not the person that I used to be. I saw that I was dying inside. The girl I used to be was fading away. But to escape out of my own misery I made a choice to leave. I am glad that I did. You need to focus on your self, whether it's going to school and getting good grades or focusing on your career. It keeps your mind busy and you grow stronger b/c you know that you didn't need that guy to make you who are you. Nowadays I wish that I could tell him, "You know what? You were right, there is no room in this world for an ugly woman. But praise the Lord that he never created an ugly woman." You are powerful, you are one of the few lucky ones that broke away. Let yourself live again. Focus on yourself and you will shine!

Answer 6

Well, you don't find it in a bar, or looking for another guy.

Find something you've always wanted to do but couldn't, maybe stained glass, or tennis, and take a class and immerse yourself in this new hobby. As you learn and become skilled, you will find that you truely have value, and will begin to respect yourself. Once you have self-respect, you'll find that your ex doesn't look so hot as he did before, and you will be more exciting to others because you're not so desperate.

Answer 7

first thing it takes is time. then keep busy, find hobbies, new friends, try new things, go to counseling if you need (there are clergy or counselors on sliding scale fee), volunteering will keep you busy doing something for someone else and put you in touch with new people and you can get a sense of pride from it, take class - even if it is something non=academic like knitting, you'll feel more fulfilled.

hang in there

good luck

Answer 8

The best way to do both, if by finding yourself again. What you like to do, where you like to go, what you like to eat, wear, treat yourself with...and feel good about you. Self-respect can never leave that way! Keep your head up! Let him see what he will never have again. That you have the upmost respect for yourself, and that you did not need his sorry ***!

Answer 9

whatever you do don't jump into another relationship ,so many do and find thereselves in rebound land ,,,,take it from an experienced single girl it's not worth it !!!!! find comfort in friends only ,,,,and do something for yourself , makeover ,new outfit , feel good about you !!!!

Answer 10

have you tried tharapy.Work on yourself. Remember that you can't change someone else's behavior but you can change your own.Do some different things.