Is it me or does it appear that everyone on this site is superficial?

Question

A nation is mourning the deaths of thousands of Americans and it seems the people at yahoo answers care more about getting a boy to like them or which nail polish looks best.

Ratbay, I will not go out with you, I am flattered, but I am straight. Please stop stalking me when I answer other people's questions. (see my other answers if you do not believe me)

Answer 1

Life goes on though. It has to. Life is for the living.

Also, you don't know what people did before or do after posting their questions. For all you know they've been at church for 3 hours attending a memorial service and want some light relief. For all you know, they spent the day at a Firefighter's rememberance and need to escape the grief for a short time.

Answer 2

No, it's not just you. But on the other hand, it's not really mourning we do five years later. It's memorializing. That's different. Mourning cannot go on forever. Traditionally, whatever you've been doing (and I'm doing it now, as of December 16, 2005) in the way of mourning is put behind you on the first anniversary of the person's death. You carry them in your heart, but it is no longer mourning you are doing. It is remembering.

Like many a good old-fashioned tradition, this one has great merit. I have been lighting memorial candles (the kind that burn for six or seven days) for Steve ever since I took possession of his ashes. I will light the last one before December 16, 2006. And mourning will be officially over.

However, the memorializing of the day of death is a wise one, too. It's important to remember the people who died, and the reasons they died, and who we are as a result of having experienced that horror together, on television and everywhere we went. We lived through that together, and if you recall, everyone was painting flags on everything, including white horses, and patriotism was at an all-time high.

Yes, we do remember. What we do with that memory is different for different people. Me, I cannot really describe my way. I remember. I especially remember the young wives and little kids of the rescue people: and sometimes the young husbands, too, since there were female rescue people lost, I am sure.

And I remember the ripple effect all through the nation, as we tried to come to grips with living in a world where someone would do such a horrible thing, and try -- oh, we really must try -- to understand why they would do such a thing, which is even harder.

And the practical matters that tortured people for years, and probably still do in many quarters. Like the number of insurance companies that had headquarters in the Twin Towers, and into what chaos -- and bankruptcy -- they were thrown that day. Many of the people who died, ironically, were in the insurance industry.

It will be interesting to see what you get in the way of responses to this. I put one up about "having any plans" you might want to read. I've closed it.

Answer 3

I mourned the deaths at the one year anniversary.. Heard every single name they read. I took some time to think about it today.. It is sad that our nation was attacked. But it did not take up my entire day.. People have a right to do other things 5 years later.. I am sure most people on here are saddened by the terrorist attacks and senseless deaths.

Answer 4

Perhaps you are a little oversensitive and judgemental. People mourn in their own way. Some may even be trying to get their minds off their pain and loss. Some may not be affected as you seem to be!! Perhaps you need to deal with your grief in ways other than attacking others perceptions, beliefs and sensitivity??? Or maybe this place really is full of superficial gits!

Answer 5

I agree w/Violet Pearl. Not everyone lost someone on 9/11, so although a huge event, it will affect everyone differently. And the ones who want to get a boy to like them probably weren't old enough five years ago to really know what was going on. Yahoo Answers is a combination of deep topics, shallow ones and everything in between.

Answer 6

People have to carry on and survive. The best a terrorist can hope for is that their actions can stop an entire way of life. We all (especially those of us in NY perhaps) have had many sad thoughts, but the ultimate weapon against the terrorist mind is to carry on, even with the seemingly superficial.

Answer 7

That's nothing compared to some of the ignorant jokes I have seen about 9/11. I don't understand how people can be so cruel. So many people are still struggling with the loss of a loved one. Rescuers are now having health problems. Our soldiers are still at war. Have we forgotten?

Answer 8

i do not know what is the matter with damn people anymore.
i can see nasty question's going on but i keep getting stupid violations,some i did deserve for coming unglued over stupid violations.just like i post a link,to a song remembering the fallen troops of iraq,and ill be damned ,they said i was in violation,not a question,but i asked was there anybody here that lost members from a soldier in the war in iraq or still have someone still over there........go figure......
peace

Answer 9

You know what, it is the way some people deal with stress.
Some to the people on here are pretty young. Some people are that shallow.
Of course, I am an optimist...I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt.

To answer your question, you don't strike me as superficial.

Answer 10

mouring.... still?

Its been 5 years, the victims families received oodles of $$$$$ besides the life insurance policies the people had, still mourning means the terrorists won

its time to move on