I play the piano at my church and the pastor came with another guy to my home and said that he found out that I was gay,,, I have been and still am in the closet and I need to know what to do in this case..I like the church and my parents go there also..but I just dont know what to do ..I have bipolar and my mind can not handel all this at once.
2006-09-11 14:54:26 · 38 answers · asked by joe_vaughn2003 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh my Dear One, just settle down now and take a deep breath. Getting totally stressed about this isn't going to help you. If you feel comfortable going to church, do so. They shouldn't be able to take something that you like to do away from you. That in it's own right is wrong. Besides, if you're still in the closet and want to stay there, do so. You can look your pastor sqare in the eye and know that the sin is his and not yours. He's using blackmail and subversion on you and you've done no worng. Trust me. God and I talk a lot and we've decided that Love is the best thing for the world...not hate. That's what your pastor is on the verge of, even if he means well. Blessings on you, my Child. There are people around you who Love you.
2006-09-11 15:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Your are not alone. The best kept secret of religous practice is that many, many, many if not most of the male church musicians are queer.. some closeted and some not. Each person makes their own decision what situation they are able to be in and still maintain their own mental health. There is no right answer, except the one you have to the question: What is best for your own mental health? If your church is one that condemns homosexuality then visit the MCC website (www.mcchurch.org) or Soulforce.org and read more about the Bible and sexuality. The Human Rights Campagin also has a faith and religon department that can help educate you about the rest of the story ... the part that says God loves you and created you just the way you are.
2006-09-12 06:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this pastor has an objection, why in the world would you continue to support a group that doesn't approve of you as a person???? that makes NO sense what so ever. If any derogatory remarks were made, I would not do a damned thing for them, and I certainly would NOT tell them I was not playing their piano again...I just would not show up .. ever again.. Find a church that has no problem with you as a person. Why would anyone allow another to degrade them????
2006-09-11 16:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question was to vague. Are you saying you do not want help with prayer? It is ok to keep going to church and seek prayer and tell them you are having some homosexual issues, but are you sexually active at this time?
It could be from an influence long ago forgotten. I have given my homosexual issue to Jesus Christ for help, and I know he is helping me even though I still have issues and think I will always be gay and the chance for me having a homosexual act is high for me. Being a Christian I have faith that everything I do is in the plan of God Almighty, and that could even mean someday I will know longer desire homosexual acts. Do not let homosexual issues keep you away from God Almighty, and tell your pastor what you think and feel. He may say it is sin, and you know it is not what God Almighty had planned, but it is in the plan now and it may change, you do not know.
But would you really say Jesus Christ could not change you when He wanted too, what do you think He would tell you? He might tell you you have little faith, because there is nothing Jesus Christ can not do if it is His and your will for it.
2006-09-12 13:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going sweetie, is it possible that when he came to see you it was to offer his support? I would continue to go, and maybe speak to you're pastor and arrange to sit down and have a chat with him, I'm not a very religious person but you sound like you could do with some guidance, I'm sorry you don't feel able to tell you're family and i hope one day you do, they may surprise you...
good luck and try and not worry about it too much, it's when you play the "what if" scenario's over in you're head that you're mental health will deteriorate...
Ive been reading through other answers and just want to add here for all the numpty's out there...You cannot help who you love! and everyone has a right to find happiness!
take care, ttfn Babs ;o)
2006-09-11 15:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Pan_24 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong of being gay going to church!You have your freewill and choice of lifestyle! Don't mind those things, try to live where you had been before! Your moral value is a big question which is against your religions,but you must be free of whatever you decides about your faith! Keep going on, in a church service!Good luck!
2006-09-11 15:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bruno 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe you pastor actually came to your house and told you he found out you were gay...unless he was offering you support in possibly 'coming out.' I don't think it is really his business unless you have asked him for help. If you still like the church, keep going, as long as this pastor isn't making you uncomfortable in any way...he's not a good 'man of God' if he is making you uncomfortable!! Good luck...
2006-09-11 15:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by just me 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
detect a sparkling church! i'm a Christian, instantly male, and proper winged... yet i'll't understand the blatant homophobia that could be expressed with the help of a few. do not enable them take your faith away because they allow you to know that God would not love you... He DOES! even possibly try many of the different denominations. i know people have various misconceptions about the Catholic church, yet i'll allow you to know they are not authentic. i'm a Catholic and that i bypass to a Pentecostal church besides (basically to satisfy different Christians), yet i have heard more desirable homophobic feedback in Pentecostal church homes than Catholic. i'm no longer basically declaring bypass to a Catholic church era, i'm basically declaring searching at different Christian church homes as a rule even of different denominations if want be to detect a sturdy church homestead that encourages your faith and in no way placed you down.
2016-11-26 02:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your pastor feels your a sinner then he should feel your in the right place to fix it.
A Church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for good Christians.
Please don't think I'm judging you because I'm not. Just looking at it from the pastors perspective.
2006-09-11 15:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i got kicked out of a church (& teaching sunday school) for being gay, then years later found out the pastor was going to the park in his truck tricking with guys, don't let them make you feel guilty!!!! god made you in his image, which includes gayness............depending on your age & area, try to find a church that accepts you for who you are!!!! they are out there!!! i'm bipolar too, actually borderline personality (look that up on search), which a lot of gays are...............most piano players are gay????? it's all in the wrist LOL................king david (a man after god's own heart had Jonathan as a b/f, some think jesus & lazarus were lovers?
2006-09-11 15:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋