Introverts and Extroverts question.........?

Question

Do extroverts tend to have lower self esteem or introverts? It seems that introverts have lower self esteem and less likely to be a happy person. Is it true? Why is it true? Is there a connection?

Answer 1

Some extroverted behavior is a front for insecurity. Some, I'm guessing, isn't.

I have no reason to believe that an introverted person should be any more unhappy or have lower self-esteem. I know many, and I don't see that.

Think about it: The person who spends time thinking out his philosophies, the world, life, other people, and his place in the world is probably more likely to have worked his/her way to some level of peace-of-mind and/or happiness.

It is also quite possible that the introverted person has thought his/her way to a certain level of self-esteem as well.

It is wrong for people to assume that "introverted" means a person is isolated. Introverts develop their own relationship with the universe, the world, their spirituality, and their inner core. They are often very intelligent people, and, contrary to some popular myths, high intelligence sometimes mean a person is intelligent enough to know how to build himself into being the person he/she wants to be and it does not necessarily mean a person is "on the edge of mental illness".

Introverts actually tend to see extroverts as being less intelligent, whether or not that's accurate.

Contrary to some popular myth, spending a lot of time thinking about one's relationship to life doesn't necessarily lead a person to some "depths of isolation and despair" but is just as likely to lead a person to some answers and understanding and a place of feeling secure and confident.

Some introverts believe that extroverts may have some need to be with other people, getting feedback and "putting on a show" for them, because of some emotional shortcoming. Introverts can at times (and depending on the extrovert) think the extrovert may have more than his/her share of testosterone, which would make him/her more outwardly bold and more competitive and generally more showy - and if not those things, then needy in some way.

Narcisstic personalities and over-blown egos are as likely to produce extroverted behavior as not, and I would assume that sociopaths interested in appearing friendly are also able to act like extroverts. At the same time, I'm sure there are a lot of introverts who have one or another emotional or mental condition that makes them have their share of "off-ness" among them as well.

I'm not saying there are not extroverts who are well adjusted. I'm not saying there are not introverts who are not. As far as I can see most people have a lot of one tendency but usually a little of the other, which helps balance them a little better.

Extroverts gain their exhilaration and happiness from people and outside activities. Introverts gain theirs from their inner world, although they are very skilled at building extraordinary love for the people to whom they're close. I tend to suspect that, perhaps, extroverts may have a "higher volume" of happiness of the less than deep and more transient kind; while introverts probably have a more concentrated, deeper, kind of happiness of a more permanent kind. (But I'm just guessing.)

It would probably be ideal for a person to have as much of a balance between being introverted and extroverted as possible (without having multiple personality disorder!).

I'm assuming that a well adjusted introvert or extrovert probably could have equal self-esteem or happiness; although I, personally, would never choose to be too much of an extrovert.

Our culture tends to admire the traits of the extrovert and question the strengths, happiness, and well adjustedness of introverts. People often don't even realize that introverts can actually like people and the world and things like athletic activites very much. Introverts are often accused of "thinking too much" by the people who don't think nearly enough.

In all their lack of showiness, I tend to believe that the well adjusted introvert knows exactly where and how to find his happiness and self-esteem while the well adjusted extrovert either doesn't need the skills to find those things because they may come automatically or else spends a life searching for them because he/she doesn't quite know where they can be found.

Answer 2

I disagree. Maybe some people who are introverted can suffer from low self esteem. But there are honestly people that enjoy a quieter life. They may seem reserved and maybe even hesitant to talk or work and socialize in groups, because it is not their preference. I know a couple of people who are like this. They arent inecure, as they are just quieter people, and prefer not to be very social.

I also agree with one of the other posts, where extroverts can be compensating for insecurities. They say some comics, actors, etc are that way. Even though it owuld appear by all outward appearances that they are completely secure within themselves, they may put on a really good show to mask their feelings about themselves.

Answer 3

Well, i am introverted, and my self esteem is not very high. I see my imprefections and always feel the need to improve myself. But i don't think it makes me less happy, i am quite happy.
Although, i have met a lot of introverted people with low self esteem. I know few extroverted people with low self esteem.

Answer 4

I can't support it with scientific data, but I don't think there is a difference in self esteem between introverts and extroverts. The thing is some people become energized from contact with others and some people become energized from having alone time. Self esteem doesn't enter in unless they are uncomfortable with how they are or if they are being forced to act in a way that goes against their natural inclination. That's my opinion.

Answer 5

I'm not a psychology expert, but yes it seems like that. Because if you keep it all inside and don't tell anyone what's going, you'll start to feel less part of the community, less part of your family, and eventually...if no one understands you, you might feel weird and misunderstood, and therefore, end up having lower self-esteem. I hope that makes sense...

As for being "unhappy," I don't really think either an extrovert or introvert could be classifed as that. Each personality type has advantages and disadvantages over eachother, so that definitely just can't be true.

Answer 6

No, it's not an accurate connatation to say that an introvert has low self-esteem. What you are talking about are called personality traits and have nothing to do with happiness and self esteem.

Answer 7

Yes, an introvert person have self-esteem. "Introverts are said to be: men of thoughts, he likes to work alone,inclined to worry and write better than talk." It has to do with personal aspects or traits of a person.

Answer 8

It is not true at all! I'm introverted and I have God and doing great

Answer 9

nonono
thats not right
im an extrovert
and i have unfathomably low self esteem