Okay... this is a wierd question... and I probly won't even get like more than like 20 answers on this one, but I don't care... I need to ask it. Every time I go out with my friends, I can't even think streight. I'm practically terrified (and I don't really understand why). I have many goals and dreams in my life, but I know that unless I can overcome this hell I'm in... I could never make them happen.
I can barley even have fun anymore. Things like video games, poker, guitar... all my real loves in life.... almost don't even appeal to me anymore. I can barley go to work and hang out with my the co-workers. It seem like everyone around me, is being funny or cool in some way and I'm just standing there, and there's nothing I can do about it. I know inside I'm a funny kool person. But I can't shine through all of the **** in my life.
How can I live my life again. I need help, or the rest of my life might as well not even happen. What should?
2006-09-11 14:45:16 · 10 answers · asked by flyboy711672005 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Hi : ) the best way to make yourself happy is to go help others . Do some volunteer work , there's lots of places that could use your help . Maybe with teens or something , I know that I get that deep down in the heart happiness when I'm doing something kind for someone else. Good Luck to you !
2006-09-11 14:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by mendatrapp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As for everyone else being cool and saying just the right things - no sweat. Sometimes the wisest man is the one with a closed mouth. Use the time to listen. We don't always have to be the leader of the pack. Sometimes its cool to chill with the cronies.
Also keep in mind, sometimes things like this happen when we are looking for some life change subconsciously. Test yourself by going through some of your stuff and see what you have that someone else would enjoy that you will not ever use again (not you music and stuff you may pick it up again) and GIVE IT AWAY TO SOMEONE! Good clothes you don't wear anymore? Take it to good will or find a church who gives clothes and food to those in need.
GET SOME FUNNY MOVIES (clean ones) and just chill. Sometimes a lot of humor entertainment can take the edge off.
And of course - just pick up some reading material and read. Even pick up a Bible and read the New Testament.
2006-09-11 15:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to see a psychiatrist. It's a long process but it can help enormously. The fact that you know you are funny and cool means you aren't too far gone. You probably just have a chemical imbalance, which can be corrected with antidepressants. There are many of these on the market, so again, it might take time to find the one that works for you. But it's really worth it, in order to get your life happening again. I'm still less than comfortable with large groups of people, but strangely, I can produce and present a weekly show on community radio. This is what keeps me going.
http://www.2ser.com/programs/shows/queernoise
2006-09-11 15:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Know It All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus less on saying the right things and acting a certain way. Most people are too consumed with themselves that they don't notice or care if you do something dumb anyways. If that sounds too hard, then planning ahead can also help. Think up topics to discuss. Read any good books, seen new tv/movies, what's new in the world? There's nothing wrong with being silent either if you can't think of anything important to say. If someone points out that you have been quiet, simply reply that you really don't have much to say. What's the shame in that?
2006-09-11 14:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by sojoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have my utmost sympathy! i've been in your shoes, walked around for about 6 months in them, then completely withdrew from life completely. you may not want to hear my advice, but here it is because i believe you need to hear it.
you're suffering from paniic/anxiety disorder compounded by a severe case of clinical depression. the good news is there is help. make an appointment to see your family doctor, or better still, make an appointment to see a psychiatrist. your illness is not your fault. it is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain. this imbalance can be corrected by taking a classification of drugs called anti-depressants. most a/d's take several weeks for you to feel the full clinical effect, so don't despair.
you've made a comment about wanting to overcome the hell you're in. hell it is! you feel desperate, stripped of your self-eteem, alone, scared, anxious, out of control, and isolated. those are the typical symptoms that accompany this hideous disease. i hope you are not entertaining negative thoughts about ending your life. that's the imbalance working on you. please remember this quote---suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
please, please seek proper medical attention ASAP. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully you can someday write on the board that you are improving. I do feel sorry for you. don't give up. you'll leave behind a large group of people who will be left to mourn for the rest of their lives.
the pain and suffering WILL GO AWAY.
much peace for you!
2006-09-11 15:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may receive more responses in the Mental Health section.
You should go to a doctor/therapist for antidepressants and therapy. Antidepressants are not happy pills, so you may want therapy to understand what was the cause of your anxiety.
You seem to be placing a lot of pressure on yourself to feel better and may be creating more anxiety in your life.
It may take time to get through this period, but be patient. And please lighten up on yourself.
2006-09-11 14:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. Discussing this issue with a therapist definitely would help. There are also books that deal with this issue. It sounds to me like a mix of depression and anxiety. If you are not seeing a therapist, perhaps someone you know knows of one that is good. Also, various university psychology departments have clinics. It depends on your insurance too.
2006-09-11 14:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by DNBursky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has anything bad happened in your life lately to make you become this way...if so try and work on that and why it is making you feel this way, if that doesnt work try counsilling they'll teach you relaxation techniques that'll help you in these situations, because, the way you feel is all based on thoughts, and your breathing, even though that is hard to beleive that really is the case. and even though it is really uncomfortable for you to be in social situations, just keep forcing yourself to be in them, otherwise you'll make it worse if you avoid them.
2006-09-11 14:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And yet in a unmarried month the following your stats say you've requested or replied 139 questions. appears like the whole "goo goo gah gah me so shy" basic is only a steaming pile of bullshit.
2016-10-16 00:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by sherie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may take some time and great effort on your part. I have a friend that got help from this site:
http://www.cureanxietydisorder.com/?utm_source=YahooAnswers&utm_medium=link%2Bpost
And the methods used don't require the use of medication!
Hope this helps you...
2006-09-14 11:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋