Is coming home later and later and he don't seem to be as drunk/ be drinking as much as he usually does, Plus he won't answer his cell when he says he is at the bar I tried to call him the past week and he don't answer and besides he tells me his phone don't work or get service in that area, my phone does and we have a joint account with our cell company? I tried to ask him what is going on and he says " I'm just tired and you are making too much of the situation, you should just trust me" WELL SORRY HONEY BUT I DON'T ESPECIALLY SINCE THE PHONE QUIT WORKING AT THE BAR. What should I do how can I find out without him finding out that I am spying on him ? We have been together for over 5 years and he has never cheated before and we just bought a house together, I don't want to jump the gun but he is acting suspicious.
2006-09-11 14:44:51 · 14 answers · asked by ~Ronyea Q♪ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to the bar bust his *** LOL
2006-09-11 15:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have a right to be upset here. I am trying to think of what I would do in your situation. I think I would let him know that you choose to trust until you have reason not to, and that if he is going to be going to bars with you at home..the VERY LEAST he can do is answer his cell...or if he is telling the truth about the cell not working.. by chance, then tell him to use a pay phone. It's disrespectful for him to treat you that way. Let him know that not everyone gives their guy that kind of freedom and he needs to show his appreciation by making sure he is available when you need him. I would also suggest going to the bars with him once in awhile. See how he reacts.
Yes, I know,...it doesn't sound good at all that he is doing this...but he could be telling you the truth. I guess I would try to give him the benefit of the doubt until I knew something more. He needs to quit coming home half drunk though...that doesn't sound like a very good way to be in a relationship. He needs to be home with you more...that's what I think. Good luck to you. Don't be afraid to express your needs to spend more alone time with him...no matter what his excuse..there isn't one good enough in my opinion. Take care.
2006-09-11 15:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me and he was hanging out with friends. I actually beat him to the bar to see if thats where he was going and he was surprised to see me, but I said, "Oh my friend wanted to have drinks so we come here" And act like you are having fun and not even into what he is doing. Then leave before him and tell him you and your friend are going to go get something to eat. If he is doing something wrong then he will no longer go to that bar. You should go there about 3 times a week before he gets there and make it your hangout as well. Then maybe you can have fun together if he like the bar scene.
2006-09-11 16:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by LETICIA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that, for my opinion. l think you try to show that you trust him every word but in the other hand you should keep quite to check everything on his pocket or others belonging when he coming back from outside. Let him go then you can easily observe the problem of the tail. Don't against him. This is stupid because if he know you don't like this and that, some how he trying to hiding everything to you even he don't like or like. Please try to open your heart to accept his request and follow his way and at that time you can easily find out what is happening. Then you think about for second step. What you should do but without any know reason how can you judge what is going on. Isn't it?
2006-09-11 15:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ding 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warning bells loud and clear. Not answering the phone, going to bars instead of coming home, staying out later and later. You've got a problem. You may need to sleuth your way into answers. Better to know the truth than be constantly guessing. If your worst suspicions turn out to be true, time to get out!! I think, though, your marriage (?) is already in trouble.
2006-09-11 14:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by watergirl54 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut instincts. If you know the bar that he goes to, why not check it out to confirm your suspicions. That's what I would do. The fact that he's not answering his cell phone is suspect. What if it was an emergency and you needed his help? The fact that he's coming home later and later is suspect. Why isn't he home with you?
2006-09-11 15:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun, your relationship is on the outs ! I would confront him and make your own conclusions. Obviously he doesnt give a crap about you. From what I am reading, hes not giving you any respect. Relationships are a two way street.
Good luck
2006-09-11 14:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just have to trust him! That's all! and if you're still suspicious about that "phone thing" then buy him a new phone, the one that works anywhere - specially on the bar...
2006-09-11 14:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by erika 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go to the bar that he goes to and see if he is there. Tell him you want a couple drinks to to unwind. See how he reacts with you there. You will know then.
2006-09-11 14:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to spy on him,get someone else to do it for you. Maybe a friend that he doesn't know. It does sound suspicious.......
2006-09-11 14:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋