my parents are in a money tight time. my mom is being mean and offending my dad and verbally abuseing us my dad never says a word and he works alot to support the family.and he gets mad sometimes but never abuses. shuld my parents break up or not .
SHULD THEY BREAK UP?
PLZ. HELP
2006-09-11 14:34:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, not yet, not without getting some counseling. There may be help. Breaking up, I think should only be a last resort. Breaking up causes so many life changing experiences especially when people have been together for a long time. Maybe you can help, see if you can talk to mom and dad. I don't know your age, but if you are old enough try to. It is easier for a couple to live together financially than apart. It would only get worse financially for both if they split. Good luck.
2006-09-11 14:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by sharkscue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Just because of money and all that?
Since it appears that you appreciate the situation more than your Mom, why not talk to your mother and try to make her understand that your Dad is doing his best under the circumstances and the naggings and verbal abuses are not helping at all? "If you can't be of help, at least do no further harm." Also, talk to your Dad and tell him how much you appreciate and understand what he is doing to boost his morale.
Then add the punchline that "if only you could find a job and help in the family finances..." Consider that as a challenge as well for your sake and your family's; that when you grow up and have the chance to contribute, this kind of family situation will not happen again.
2006-09-11 21:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, parents go through tight money problems whether or not it is their fault. It can lead into arguments and verbal fights between them. Your father could be working additional hours to help solve the money problem situation. You never mentioned how long the money problems or verbal arguments have been going on. Did they happen almost at the same time or within a short period of time? The problems from what you have written could vanish once the tight money problem situation vanishes. With the information presented, the answer is no, and it is ultimately up to them whether or not they should break up.
2006-09-11 22:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when two people who were in love stop and breakup. I wish everyone would stay together. But anyway, Sounds as if your mom needs help in expressing what is actually bothering her. Maybe you could catch her in a good mood and try to get to the real issues she is dealing with. I bet it is not the money. Money cannot buy happiness. Her verbal abuse has got to stop. Make her aware of how she sounds by recording her and playing it back at another time.
2006-09-11 21:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by dotthateye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our opinions do not matter (certainly not towards a child of the situation).
Perhaps there is far more to the situation than what you see.
I am not saying one parent is right, or one parent is wrong. What I am saying is that you shouldn't be asking us if your parents should break up, because it is not up to us, or you. This is between them.
In the mean time. Try your best to remain out of it. Do your chores, help out extra if you can, to take some of the home stress off of your parents. Mind your manners, and when things are turning on a sour note (such as arguments) - go to your room and stay out of it.
Good luck.
2006-09-11 21:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by eedoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try walking out in front of them and saying I think you should get a divorce, I hate hearing you fight. Mom you are mean to dad and this is not a good example of a loving family.
Having a child bring to light their issues may just make them notice how much thier actions affect you. Parents aren't perfect mom and dads are human flawed people but we don't always realize how much our kids hear of how it looks to them how we treat each other.
By all means say something to them, divorce is their choice but hearing you voice your concerns and thoughts on what you see may make them stop and realize how they treat each other enough to make a chnage for the better.
2006-09-11 21:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't need to break up, they need counseling.Mostly your Mom. Why don't the kids get together and tell Mom that she needs help and Dad is doing the best he can? That might make her open her eyes and mind and see that she is harming the entire family. Good luck.
2006-09-11 21:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,being in a money tight situation can cause people to asked different sometimes.but that doesn't mean that they don't love each other anymore.as soon as they get all there fiancees worked out then you'll see everything will be back to normal.in the meantime just bare with them.
2006-09-11 21:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by lovinonly#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are the only ones who can decide this. Best for you to just love both of them, try to be supportive, but above all, DO NOT take sides.
2006-09-11 21:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by from HJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me after a divorce the only people who have money are the attorneys.
2006-09-11 21:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋