my wife is a "ait" in the army. well she started getting im's form my ex's that i was sleeping with them which she knew was a lie cause 1) i dont have a car (anymore) 2)they have been talk **** since weve been married. 3) i play my xbox 360 too much to worry about sex. so it never bugged her before will she swear up and down she didnt beleve it well that weekend her and her two g/f's were going clubing well after they got an hotel she told me that one of her firends were upset and wanna get drunk and possable sex so i argeed then at about 3 am she calls me and said the there three guys here two of them are str8 one is gay and the two guys were thier with her friends and the gay guyu joined with one of the girls. well, that moring she was dyeing her hair and got some dye in her eyes and rushed to the bathroom she knew someone was in the shower but didnt bother asking who and she got in the shower and washed her eyes out and later found out the gay guy was there.....
2006-09-11 14:23:56 · 8 answers · asked by garebelboy18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he helped washed her and then he "entered" her and for 3 min they had sex intill her bro called and they stoped. well she didnt tell me intill 7pm that day what happen. she tolds me she was upset and drunk (that was always her reason) she begged me not to leave her, which im not, but what kills me is i called her when she was dyeing her hair and she told me the guys lefted and she had clothes on. the last thing i heard was that she got some dye in her eyes and that she'll call me back. but she didnt call me intill 6:30. i tryed to call her in between but no answer. and she has done this before and it was the same thing but her child came form him not me but we werent married then.so am i stupid to forgave her? or what tell me what u think?
2006-09-11 14:33:01 · update #1
im just hopping its the truth and not more happen. btw she is half way across the usa at a army base but if she was here then ill be have sex with her as much as she wants but shes not
2006-09-11 14:49:44 · update #2
Look man, Ive been in this situation (well not exactly like that but sort of)
I was on a Navy ship for 9 months and my girlfriend cheated on me once. She didnt tell me until after I married her, but at that time I knew that I loved her and I was willing to look past mistakes she made in the past. I forgave her but to this day I still think about it and it tears me up inside. Try explaining this to a woman, its impossible for them to understand.
Well like you said you are not leaving her. If you decide to go down that road, understand that you will have thoughts about what exactly happened, and you will be nervous. My take is the shower thing didnt even happen, she hooked up with one of the guys bottom line, but used that story to help steer her straight and hopefully find some compassion from you. I guess it worked.
Two options, leave her and move on, which is difficult but not impossible or understand what happened, and live with it.
2006-09-19 05:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true (and you sound too stupid to make it up), then sell everything, hire the meanest lawyer money can buy and drop that repugnant wh*re like a sack of hammers.
And YES -- you are stupid if you forgive the $lut.
2006-09-11 22:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get up from your computer
Pack up all of her belongings and throw them on the front lawn.
Change the locks.
Get her out of your life.
She cheated on you. You will and should never get over it.
Man / Woman:
Do not tolerate some one being reckless with your heart.
2006-09-11 21:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Winter_Decay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this here? This is your business alone, not ours. You are going to do what you want to do..I would certainly hope. You know you better than anyone. Do as you think best for you. Good luck
2006-09-11 21:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never heard a wife is ssoo. brave and confident and happy to cheat on husband like that... very rare
2006-09-11 22:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not stupid. i admire you for being able to forgive your wife for that. i don't think i would ever be able to forgive my significant other if that situation ever occurred. i'm glad that you two have honesty in your relationship.
2006-09-11 21:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by christinaz22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds twisted - you did say you agreed to let her go, right?
2006-09-11 21:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Big Buddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind. Good luck.
2006-09-11 21:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by da_hammerhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋